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ANOTHER BOMB BLAST @ NYANYA-ABUJA AGAIN?!!!

President Jonathan Vows (for the umpteenth Time) to end insurgency- AIT News, Today!
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Am so Sad to report that the death toll is increasing (80+)!

Where are we heading to?
Ibo lan loh?
Ukeh kii kah? Sighs…

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FINALLY! OBESERE ADMITTED HE SLEPT WITH HER…!

Fuji musician, Obesere who was recently arrested for allegedly defiling a 29-year-old business woman, Olanike Olaiya, yesterday, finally told his own side of the story on the Wazobia show on MITV.

The Fuji star was accused by his victim of defiling her, inserting a ring in her private part which made her bleed for days in his Okota house, Lagos and also threatening her life after she reported the case to the police, thereby making it viral.

Obesere who was reported to have pressured the police to drop case accepted he slept with the lady but did not r*pe her saying its his enemies at work who are trying to bring him down.

See what he had to say below:

 She visited me at home at night and it was too late for her to return to her place. I won’t lie about the fact that we had intimate encounter. But I did not r*pe her. And it was about four or five days after she visited me that she went to the police to allege that I defiled her.

I went to the police station but when when I realized that the officers there were favoring her as a complainant, I requested them to transfer the case to the State Criminal Investigation Department, SCID, Panti, Yaba. There, they asked her for evidence that she was defiled. There was no injury on her. Her clothes were intact.

When she couldn’t produce evidence, the police advised her not to attempt to blackmail me. They advised her to gently approach me and ask for help if she wanted anything. When she first called me to say she was feeling sick, I called the woman who introduced her to me to take her to hospital. But Alhaja said nothing was wrong with her, that she was only trying to extort me. Alhaja said she planned to blackmail me into parting with between five and ten million naira.

I can tell you my enemies are behind the allegation. They are trying to bring me down. But they won’t succeed because I’m a child of God, a messenger of God. Once God remains behind me, nobody can bring me down.

I’m a responsible man, a reliable man. But I’m human and therefore fallible. But I’m not losing sleep about this allegation. I’m undeterred and I’m going about my business because I have no doubt that the truth will prevail.”

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PASTOR ORDERS LADIES NOT TO WEAR PANTS TO CHURCH’S SERVICE!!!

Indeed wonders shall never end, especially as we’re approaching the much talk about end time:

As you read this, a controversial pastor has told ladies attending his church not to wear underwear so they can feel closer to God. The strange order was issued to female members by Reverend Njohi. Female congregants were forbidden from wearing bras and pants to service at Reverend Njohi’s church, a ministry known as Lord’s Propeller Redemption Church.

The pastor openly warned that there would be grave consequences for any female member who fails to adhere strictly to his new order. Surprising, most of the women in his church adhered to the order as ladies were are said to have attended service with no underwear, leaving their breast dangling…

Reverend Njohi, whose church is located in Nairobi, Kenya, according to Kenyan Post, said ladies need to feel free in their ‘mind and body’ while in church for “easy access of the spirit”.

Why is it that some pastors just like taking advantage of their church members?

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You Can Defeat Anxiety

Text: Proverbs 12:25 ~ “Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad”.

Message:

of the weapons of the enemy against the saints is anxiety or worry. He uses it to demoralize Christians or create doubt in their hearts, but the Almighty God has given the saints the weapons they need to overcome anxiety. The first weapon is the good word: You need to hear a good word to defeat anxiety. The good word is found in the Holy Scriptures; therefore, find a scripture that is related to that worry, declare it to yourself, and the anxiety will disappear. The second weapon is to give thanks and praise to God for what He has done for you; as you sing and thank Him, the burden of worry will be lifted from you. The last weapon is to pray, especially in other tongues, and the Holy Ghost will crush the anxiety. Hallelujah!

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GOOD MUSIC PAYS EVEN BETTER!

Written By king Joseph

Founder/CPS @successmedia_a

(a subsidiary of KING JOSEPH SUCCESS WORLD)

Preface:

Every local, juju, or traditional, afro and Fuji Musicians/Artistes are with proves jazz men who are in other words fortified by these traditional power, dine and wine with those in charge as guardians/custodians (priests).

My Question:

You know why? It’s because they love, cherish, adore and respect so much traditions and custom and of cause, don’t tell me that you don’t know that when a man believes so much and respect his tradition, he’ll do everything to protect and gain immensely from it.

Hence, you see King Sunny Ade, Oliver DeCoque (late), Chief Osita Osadebe, Sir Shina Peters, Fela Anikulapo Kuti & Sons, Dr Victor Owaifo, Sir Victor Olaiya, Chief Bright Chinezie, Ednar Okoli, Christy Essien Ibekwe, Christ Okotie, Felix Liberty, Mike Okri, Yinka Ayefele, Chief Aruna Ishola and Son, Chief Ayinde Marshal K1 de Ultimate, King (Alhaji) Saheed Oshupa (Obanla 1), Alhaji Wasiu Alabi Pasuma, Barrister Wasiu Ayinde, Ayinla Omowura, Kayode Fashola, Femi Kuti, Seun Kuti. Onyeka Onwenu, Innocent 2Baba Idibia, Eedris Abdul Kareem, Corbams Asuquo, etc are those Artistes/Musicians who have made great impacts, laid down “evergreen” legacies, epic Singers, Legends, and icons, famous and wealthier than you can ever imagine all through music.
They were too traditional to be deceived by any particular religion, that has become one of the major reasons for the global crisis and terrorism.

But, have you ever asked why these great people of Nigeria/Africa have been able to make it this far in spite of all odds, government harassment and numerous arrests whenever they pour out their minds in fight against our (Nigeria) very bad and evil Idiotic and greedy politicians/and Leaders, who have almost succeeded in sucking this once great a Nation (Giants if Africa) dry, thereby ruining it.?

Despite all these and so many challenges they encounter in Nigeria (as a result of our government negligence towards the music/entertainment industry unlike western countries especially America), they still scale through, they came, they saw, and, they conquered as they never gave up, irrespective of the govt negligence and harassments/illegal arrests.

YOU KNOW WHY?
It is because they were very brave and courageous men, knowing that if a man is courageous enough and fears no man, he’ll be able to always stand on his words knowing they’re truths. If you’re brave and courageous enough, in a nutshell, all men will be same and equal to you and you would always want them to be well treated as such and not with disdains and otherwise.

So, they were using their music/songs to change Nigeria/Africa and the world at large and these bad Leaders (who can still be found in our current government, but thank God at least we still have hope for a very long time in the country on PMB & few of his cabinet members to help restore our lost hope, at least to help clear our doubts that for once we can trust on our Leaders and Govt to making this country a “Giant of Africa” again). Because they know when you truly believe in something, you should gain something and protection from it (even though, some are too scary and of because too evilish that whatever you think you got from believing and worshipping these great traditions boomerang, some will call them…some say they have gods they worship. Abeg nor be me write this one o…smiles)
They know no man can kill or suffer them permanently, except it is divine. Self beliefs!

Have you listened to #ThisIsNigeria (a song just released by our own Falz)? OmG!!! You’re missing real big, if your answer is “NO”! That is a very good example of the good songs I’m talking about. A song that adresses every areas of life – especially the state of the Nation. Even P. Diddy had to post it on his instagram page and as well promised to promote it massively on Revolt Tv! What more can I say, #Nsido? See screenshot below 👇

These Iconic and Legendary Musicians/Artistes I call Saviours of Nigeria Music Industry. They’re/were Heroes/Heroines of music.

But, I think some of our new generation of Musicians/Artistes are also trying and even harder/better/smarter and which has helped pushed Nigeria Music Industry to second spot in the world.

Thanks to the likes of (randomly) Lagbaja, Innocent 2Face Idibia, Corbams Asuquo, Alhaji Wasiu Alabi Pasuma, King Saheed Osupa, Psquare, D’banj BangaLee, Sound Sultan, Don Jazzy, Femi Kuti, Seun Kuti, Dagrin, Davido Adeleke, Wizkid Ayo Balogun, Olamide Baddo, M.I Abaga, Jesse Jags, Eedris Abdulkareem, Ice Prince Zamani, Patoranking Nnaemeka, Phynofino, Adekunle Gold, Reekado Banks, Tiwa Savage, Asa, Sean Tizzle, Oritse Femi, Sunny Nneji, etc.

Today, Nigeria is second in the world after America. This feat is collectively achieved by the aforementioned Artistes/Musicians through good songs/music and not shits like some wack Artistes who also claim to be good artistes and stars sing.

I guess, I have written more than expected to, but I just need few seconds from you to read this simple messages I intend passing through this article is to simply try to sing good music, that’s if you must sing. With good music with inspirational and motivational messages the general public and the younger generation especially.

Songs that can change man’s minds poor/greedy mentalities.

Songs that campaign against bad governances, religion and ethnic crisis/wars.

Songs that give hopes to the hopeless.

Songs that heal!!!

We are very tired of songs with negative messages and vulgar languages. Songs I can not (even as an Entertainment person) play where my children are or in the presence of my Pastor or church members, so they don’t start seeing me as a bad person through the kinda music I listen to.

At a time like this (in Nigeria), all what we all should be listening to is something that inspires, motivates and addresses the bad leadership/governance in this once a “Giant of Africa” of ours. Songs that change us positively with better influence and not the other way round, mbok, #Nsido?

Enough of all these pangolo (noisy music with no sense) shits! With good music, who says you can’t make it big and even very BIG?
2Baba Idibia, with good music till date (plus his other good attributes that are also of great help).
Cobhams, Oritse Femi, Sound Sultan, Dagrin (late), Timi Dakolo, Kiss Daniel, Adekunle Gold, etc have all made it very big by singing good music. So, why can’t you make it with good music.

Thank you so much for your time with #KingJoseph
(omo Iya Geebu Alata)…but please, I need your help with the title, I didn’t know the suitable one for this piece.

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Mr Nsido

INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE

#RelationshipTip

Writer: Olabode King Joseph
Founder/CPS at Success MEDIA Africa – S.M.A
(a subsidiary of KING JOSEPH SUCCESS WORLD)

Laguage Used: SELA

Preface:

Marriage and the family are institutions ordained by God Almighty Himself, but with both man (husband) and woman (wife) having great roles to play to further make it sustainable – one of which is “Intimacy” which many of today’s (cultural) marriages lack.

Definitions:

Intimacy In accordance with the English Dictionary means feeling in atmosphere of closeness and openness towarss someone else, not necessary involving sexuality, while “Marriage” (n) on the other hand is the state of being married. (ii). The union of two (or sometimes more) people, usually to the exclusion of all others. (iii). Figuratively, a close union.
Biblical Insights On Marriage

The Current Cultural Crisis – astonishingly, as it may seem, we can no longer assume that people in our culture understand what the proper definition of “marriage” is. This is not only sad a commentary on the impact of same-sex marriage activists on our society, it also shows how the culture’s memory of the biblical tradition on which it is largely based is fading fast.

My Big Question

What is Marriage biblically defined as? And what is the biblical definition of “Intimacy”? In this brief treatise in intimacy and marriage, we will be taking up these questions and proceed to discuss a number of related matters, such as; #singleness, #divorce, #remarriage & #homosexuality, in an effort to develop a full-orbed understanding of the biblical teaching on the subject matter. But, mbok, wait o, before we proceed, permit me to dwell on MARRIAGE & FAMILY a little bit, since we cannot talk on marriage and the aforementioned subject-topic without venturing on FAMILY and what the Bible says about It, #Nsido?

Marriage and Family

Marriage and Family are institutions under siege today, and only a return to the biblical foundation of these God-given institutions will reverse the doctrine of marriage and family in our today’s culture.

And so, What is the FAMILY?

Biblically, Family is defined (in a narrow sense) as the union of one man and one woman in matrimony which is normally blessed with one or several natural or adopted Children – the Fruit(s) of MARRIAGE!

Broadly, family includes any other persons related by blood (the extended…) as we were/are taught in the Elementary – one of the few truths taught in schools.

Bible Reference:

We read in the Holy Book of Genesis 2:18-20 that God in the beginning created first a man (Adam – the Apple victim) to exercise dominion over His creation and subsequently a woman (Eve – the Apple Discoverer) as the man’s suitable helper (the Bible actually refer to her as the “Helpmate”)

In furtherance, Genesis 2:24 says; “Therefore, a man (husband) shall leave his father and his mother and cleave (hold) fast to his woman (wife), & they shall become one flesh”. From this verse, we’ll discover that God actually instituted at the beginning; one man is united (intimately) to one woman in matrimony, and the two form one new natural family…what else? Simple! In this regard, “become one (intimate) flesh” not only refers to the establishment of one new family but also to the procreation of offering. This in turn, is in keeping with God’s original command to the first human couple (Adam and Eve) to “be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over all of creation” – Genesis 1:28

With the above biblical insight on family, it is therefore obviously obvious that to Marriage and Family are institutions ordained by God Almighty Himself, but with both man (husband) and woman (wife) having great roles to play to further make it sustainable – one of which is “Intimacy” which many of today’s (cultural) marriages lack.

Fast forward…deeper into the word “MARRIAGE”

What is Marriage – again?

Marriage is a covenant, a sacred bond between a man and a woman instituted by and publicly entered into before God and normally consummated by sexual intercourse.

Furthermore, God’s plan for the marriage covenant involves at least the followi five (5) principles:

(1). The Permanence of Marriage: Marriage represents a serious commitment that should not be entered into lightly or unadvisedly. It involves a solemn promise/pledge, not only to one’s partner but before God. In other words, divorce is not and never permitted/allowed! Marriage is intended to be permanent, since it was established by God. Remember what Matthew 19:6 (KJV) says; “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder”. Read Mark 10:9 to learn more.

(2). The Sacredness of Marriage: Marriage goes beyond just a civil union; it is a relationship before and under God. I’m not going to spend more time here, but I humbly urge you to read the Book of Genesis 2:22 for..

(3). The Exclusiveness of Marriage Marriage is not only permanent, sacred or otherwise, it is exclusive! This simply means no other human relationship, I repeat, no other human being must interfere with the marriage (which starts from serious/committed relationship to dating to courtship between two opposite sex) commitment between husband & wife.

Read 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 & Genesis 2:22-25

(4). The Mutuality of Marriage: Marriage is a relationship of free self-giving of one human being to another (Eph. 5:25-30). Partners are to be (first and foremost) concerned about the well-being of the other person and to be committed to each other in steadfast love and devotion. This also involves the need for forgiveness and restoration of the relationship in the case of sin.

NOTE: Mutuality here doesn’t mean equality (sameness) in role. Remember what the Scripture teaches about this; wives are to submit to their husband’s (in everything) & to serve as their “HELPMATES” Ephessians 5:22-24. Also Genesis 2:18-20 & Colossians 3:18.

(5). INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE

Yes! This is where we’re going to dwell on more.

Marriage is the most intimate of all human relationships, uniting a man and a woman in a “one flesh union” (Gen. 2:23-25). Marriage involves leaving one’s family of origin and “being united” to one’s spouse, which signifies the establishment of a new family unit distinct from the two (Partners) originating families.

Get this fact known and registered; “one flesh” suggests sexual intercourse and normally procreation, at its very heart the concept entails the establishment of a new kinship relationship between two previously unleashed individuals (and families) by the most intimate of human bonds.

“And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called WoMan, because she was taken out of Man.

Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and we’re not ashamed.” ~ Genesis 2:23-25

In addition, Mark 10:6-9 says; “But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife; then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put assunder.”

From the above biblical extracts, it is no more news that Marriage does not happen by default or accident. It is never an accident at all! Marriage has always been divine – God’s plan! This means it has to be a concerted effort of both Parties. Therefore, must agree to it and strive to make it work. Amos 3:3

(Ezekiel 37:8)

In Genesis 2:23; Adam said “this is now the bone of my bones…” mbok, what does this imply to you? Don’t get your brain cracked up, I’ll explain briefly; when bone locates bone in marriage, they become one (flesh) and stronger!

P.S: husband and wife are not mates but helpmates.

What Brings About Marital Intimacy?

(i). Acceptance: Strength, weakness, opportunity, & threats are all found in marriage, and for it to work, they both must accep each other – always (Mark 10:8). No one is good let alone being perfect, & so we must learn to accept each other’s flaws. “Ephesians 5:28-29 says; “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.”

(ii). Agreement: there must be an agreement between man (husband) and woman (wife)

a. Husbands and wives must always set goals together and make it black and white. Heb. 2:15-16

b. Set priorities of goals together – a must!

c. Availability of resources must both be considered and worked on together.

d. Giving attention to others is a must.

e. Breaking tides with distraction.

f. Creating time for each other is a must! Heb. 3:6

(iii). Service: husband and wife must be ready to serve each other thus:

a. Reverence each other

b. Must sacrifice for each other – regardless. Agreed!

c. Couple must practice the 3Cs in marriage:

i. Celebrate,

ii. Comfort and

iii. Cuddle each other like #Nsido?

d. Couple must correct each other in love. But must avoid correction by debasing your partner.

e. Communication is key! Let’s go lengthy here by looking at the roles communication play in marriage, as follows:

i. It breaks that partition in marriage Hebrew 13-15

ii. It breaks trust and transparency if you’re not discussing, you’ll end up having catalogue of offenses – now & then.

iii. It leaves room for wrong assumptions by both Partners, & assumptions creates issues where there might seem not to be any – in the first place.

iv. If it lacks in marriage, it turns once Love Birds to Strangers.

v. It opens the wall for Lizards, if it’s lacking in marriage…

What Are The Things That Make Communication Effective?

i. Communication must be timely – make it at the right time.

ii. Communication barriers of ambiquity must be removed – make it simple!

iii. The language and tone must also be considered. Be (very) polite and calm when communicating it with your partner.

iv. Marital communication must be devoid of intents of anger and insults.

Some of us may still fall victim to the belief system that “true love happens naturally” and the implication that “work need not apply” to loving relationships. If you are guilty of this type of thinking, you may be in trouble. The reality is, real love takes real work and effort, long after the move-in date or the exchanging of vows. But knowing how to build it is another subject entirely.

Let this article prepare you to get started with some marriage intimacy exercises frequently recommended in couples’ therapy. These intimacy activities for couples will work wonders for your married life – if tried out!
Let’s study them together as follows:

1. Extra Long Cuddle

Let’s kick things off with an easy one. Choose the time, whether at night or in the morning, and spend that precious time just snuggling for 30 minutes at least. If you normally snuggle for this length of time, increase it to an hour.

Why it works?

Physical closeness is one of the hallmarks of bonding.

The pheromones, kinetic energy, and chemical reactions that happen just by snuggling with your loved one create the sense of connectedness necessary in healthy relationships.

2. Breathing Connection Exercise

Like many intimacy exercises, this one may seem silly at first, but open your mind to trying it and you may just love

it. You and your partner will face one another seated, and lightly touch your foreheads together, eyes closed. You will begin to breathe, deep, intentional breaths in tandem. The recommended number of breaths in tandem starts at seven (7); but you and your partner can participate for as many breaths as you like.

Why it works?

The touch, and the experience of the touch, aligned with the breathing, brings about natural feelings of connectedness through the shared energy exchanged via the brow or “third eye” chakra. This may tap into some of our most primal resources in our ability to engage in spirituality and to exchange energetic forces through organic means.

3. Soul Gaze

In this exercise, u are merely sitting faced to one another and will stare into one another’s eyes, imagining that the eyes are a “window into the soul”. As many of these types of exercises may seem corny at first, this one is a classic. Though you may indeed feel awkward in the beginning, as you get used to sitting and gazing into one another’s eyes the exercise becomes relaxing and meditative. Try putting it to music so that you have 4-5 minutes of timed focus.

Why it works?

This type of exercise tends to slow things down. It should be done several times per week for maximum benefit. In today’s busy world, focusing for 4-5 minutes just gazing into one another’s eyes helps the couple to relax and regroup. Yes, it is okay to blink during the exercise, but try and avoid talking. Some couples use a 4 or 5 minute song to set the background & time.

4. Three Things

You and your partner can play this one however you like.

One of you may state your things all in one go, or you may alternate. Think of the questions you want to ask; write them down if it helps.

The questions will be phrased as such:

What 3 things will you want to eat for dessert this month?

What 3 things will you be sure to take with you on an adventure to a tropical island?

What 3 things do you hope to do together that we haven’ttried?

These are merely examples; you get the idea.

Why it works?

This is a communication exercise . It enhances the bond between u by increasing communication skills, and provides knowledge of one another’s thoughts, feelings, & interests. It is also helpful as interests can change over time. The answers will also yield information that will most likely prove useful in the future.

5. Two Ears, One Mouth

In this active listening exercise, one partner talks or “vents” on a topic of their choosing, while the other partner must sit facing them, merely listening and not speaking. The both of u may be amazed at how unnatural it can feel to actually just listen without speaking. After the five minute, three minute, or eight minute rant is over, the listener then is free to express feedback.

Why it works?

Active listening practice is another communication exercise that enhances our ability to truly listen and take in another’s stream of consciousness. Focusing on them intently without distractions, gives them the sense of our undivided attention; something of vital importance but of which is rare in today’s busy world. Intentional listening also reminds us to stay focused on the other person without asserting our opinions prematurely. At the end of this exercise, you will exchange places as speaker/listener.

Additional Bedtime Couples Exercises and Tips for better Intimacy (base on research)

Here are some amazing bedtime routines to incorporate in your daily lives for better intimacy:

i. Keep Your Phones Away: Not only is keeping the phone away great for your relationship, having zero electronic light is also beneficial for sleep hygiene as well. It will really work wonders for the quality of sleep that you’ll be able to get.

Prioritize your connection with your partner for some time before you doze off – talk about the day, your feelings or anything else that’s on your mind. Make sure to switch off the phones or light a few fragrant candles or two to bond better.

ii. Sleep Naked: Taking all your clothes off before you sleep has proven health benefits (it regulates cortisol, is great for genital health, and improves skin quality too).

Additionally, it also allows you and your partner to have more skin on skin contact which results in the release of oxytocin. Plus, it makes having sex in the morning so much more easier!

iii. Massage Each Other: Massaging each other is a great routine to keep! Imagine you’ve had a tough day and are being pampered by your partner with a loving massage. Whatever your reason, massage is a great tool for enhanced relaxation before bedtime and couples connection.

iv. Show Gratitude: Do you know what sucks at the end of the day? Criticism. Now replace that with gratitude and you’ll see what a difference it makes to your life. Say thanks at the end of the day to your spouse and you’ll notice how rewarding life becomes.

v. Have “Good” Sex: The best way to reconnect at night as a couple is to have sex! Of course, you cannot do it ever single day. But, do engage with each other intimately/sexually and explore new and limitless options every single night.

Dedicate at least 30-60 minutes of your day to the health of your relationship with your spouse and witness the upward spiral effect of it in all areas of your lives…#Nsido?

May God help us all as we press towards making our marriage works. AMEN!!!

#love #IntimacyinMarriage
#blissfulmarriage #NsidoMovement
#marriage & #family

I remain #kingJoseph the @strategist_kj
Mr Nsido?

DON’T CHEW MORE THAN YOU CAN SWALLOW

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Don’t Chew More Than You Can Swallow
By king Joseph (the @strategist_kj)

Edited By: Ms Adebukola Ijaola (@qbs_creatives)
Co-edited By: Ademuyiwa Castrol

Languages Used: Simple English For All (SEA), Efik, Pidgin and Yoruba

Dialogue:
Talking to my Ghetto Soljas.
#TeamNsido? #TeamStreet

king Joseph: “How far naw, omo iya mi (my blood)? Hope say evri evri dey go well with you ba?”

Jamani: “Boss, awa wa o…in chorus; “awon ota lo jon.
“Bo se ma je niyen Oga mi, Olorun, no shakement in your own voice” (actually, Don invented that word…smiles) he added.

Don’t chew more that you can swallow…lest you vomit – literary

It Begins…
I smiled because, I was happy with that response considering the strength and strong spirit that came with it – perhaps, in it. Despite the effects of this economy crisis of our once the obvious ‘Giant of Africa’. He believes in his hustle still – my kind! Nsido?
He looked down casted & worried somehow though (considering the magnitude of his challenges…just recently, his younger brother publicly humiliated/almost beat him up ‘a family man’ because he’s not financially capable) – he’s a man; it happens to all – we feel tired somehow often times “HUMAN BODY”.

He’d run to me for consolation whenever he’s down, hence, I took good advantage to reignite his fire to enable him know why he has to speak to what will bring about that #PEACEFULLIFE (which in every sane land, everyone strives for nothing short of). And so, I decided to ‘help’ encourage him, thus: “Omo iya mi, Don’t Chew More Than You Can Swallow’. Never try it, not even when you feel like, because of the kind of challenges life is throwing at you for some while now. Hey, bro! I have mine too, but the only thing that helps to keep me going is this popular saying; ‘tough times don’t last, tough people do’. I try not (especially, more now) to run faster than my shadow – no man can! So as not to miss that right path that brings about great achievements, happiness and PEACE of mind to me – to ‘Us’.

I don’t know, but I think that might as well work for you – if you try it more? Still same? I know but he sighed and said; ‘ ohun yen niyen, Oga mi. Baba in spirit, o shey’. Flattered (I smiled), but I don’t know, I just wanted to take control – perhaps. I wanted him (you) to see at least a high point in my talking mood. Listen, my brother, it will all CONNECT soon, regardless. Iyanu ma shele, everything go fall in place no matter how far you’ve been hustling harder, endeavor to do the following:
1. Try to be as humble as you can to all that cross your path in life.

2. Run from debt (unnecessary ones).

3. Oh, permit me, be as faithful as you can to God and love all!

4. Be kind to mankind, no barrier.

5. Be generous – in your little way…

6. Pay your tithes regularly (which I am also trying hard to make a habit now).

7. And try as much as possible to be in peace with everyone – not bear grudges with any – regardless (if you do find yourself already doing this, then endeavor to make amend) even when you think you are not fully at fault (perhaps something triggered your anger, don’t worry, it is normal, we all human, we all have our limits – every man. We all get pushed to the wall (some over the wall) and at this moment, we feel like turning back to face ‘IT’; we get mad, very paranoid, we feel like pouring our minds out – opening the bottle tends to be the only solution. And some, feel like breaking things, throwing foul languages at the other, throwing punches and kicks will want to sound the best reaction to them while some will feel like resigning from their bills – paying job to freely express their anger et all…

Fine! None of that is bad (so to say, since we’ve been mandated not to judge anyone), but remember, anger destroys and can never be repaired. Do you think your reactions to that situation/attack will bring you the divinely deserved #PEACE and true fulfilment, now and aftermath? Never will it bring you that PEACE you’ve been longing for. The moment you let anger out of your life, then, that PEACE finds you, enter to your life, eat and dime with you. Let what people do to you matter less, be content, be appreciative, see things God’s way, never try to be who you’re not, never envy your fellow human achievements and never look down on yourself or anybody for every time on the clock repeats itself each new day. Use your time wisely cos the next second, minute, hour, day, week, month, year may not favour you. Whatever the Lord gives you, appreciate it and don’t ever forget to give Him praise and worship because that’s one of the ways you can make Him happy.

He’s a dependable God who sees and knows everything and He’s the only unfailing God who does things in miraculous ways which no man can comprehend. To achieve your destiny, you will surely come across bridges or mountains that are very difficult to cross but don’t forget that with God all things are possible.

Listen, no matter how hard the situation you find yourself might be, do not panic or get blown by the wind, thereby dipping your hands in what might end in regret. Know that it has been like that since after the first ‘disobedience; ‘…and man shall sweat to eat…’ but in the end, you’re coming out of it all. Trust GOD for your victory, #Nsido?

Moreover, do not forget that you still have the capacity to change that situation, provided you take it to HIM and be more perseverance .yes, YOU CAN DO IT! Just remain steadfast and keep your FAITH in HIM high. With GOD, everything is P.O.S.S.B.L.E! However, trust the vision (if you don’t have one, create it today and work towards it), believe in yourself like #Nsido?

I have my challenges too. But, hey, this is me, I keep the hustle going and the dream alive. Let me confess to you, King Joseph Success World is an empire – a dream, a vision in progress. Yes, I’M KING JOSEPH, the DREAMER. Even Success MEDIA Africa is named after my unborn Son (Success), which nothing can stop from coming to pass…I’m a WORK in process, because GOD is a GOD of processes…mbok, coming to that another day, #Nsido?

I am not writing this epistle as a rich or made man, but as a typical HUSTLER just like you…yes, you, #Nsido?

Interestingly, there’s always at least a very goof reason for every situation, hence there’s at least a positivity in every challenges (if you look deep, remember that Yoruba saying; ‘ti oju baa fara bale, aa ri’mu’?

At times, God actually wants us to learn something new that’ll catapult us to our #greatness. At times, He’s helping us to avert some unseen evil first – to clear the road for us, perhaps to make us live longer and be stronger…Remember, what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. The best time to be calmer is that trying moments. And so, that is the best time to move closer to and build the most cordial (intimate) relationship with the ONE ‘GOD’ who can do all things with ease and bless us according to Hid riches in glory. We need His mercy and grace more at such period. Don’t go far from His presence and you’ll see Him turning the #tides in your FAVOUR, the ones that’ll make the world scream; ‘God, #Nsido?’ on your behalf!

Believe and be positive in whatever you do (be it good or bad) because whatever we sow we shall reap. For as long as there’s no short cut to the heavenly kingdom of our Father (God), and so, there’s no short cut to #success. There are shortcuts to everything devilish but to everything pure and good are divine journey. It is very certain that any life committed to Jesus cannot be wasted. Faithfully run to Him all the days of your life, surrender all to Him and He will never disappoint you.
Your friends/mates have all made it to the top, enh, agreed, but remember, no late Comer. Besides, our destiny and timing differ, so please, I urge you again, mbok, #DontChewMoreThanYouCanSwallow
#Nsido?

INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

#RelationshipTip By king Joseph

Topic: INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

As thriving beings, intimacy is one of the most important things our souls will always crave. A relationship needs intimacy. Intimate relationships allow partners to become very deeply acquainted & connected to the innermost soul or spirit. Within a good relationship or marriage, there will be several elements of intimacy which will keep it nurtured.

Simple physical affections such as hand-holding, cuddling, hugs and kisses are important to your relationship. These simple actions let you and your partner know that you’re there for one another, that you matter to the other. Intimacy is what helps love to survive through the toughest of times, and makes us continue to want to love and be loved by our partners.

Without intimacy, there is never the security in the relationship of knowing that the other person is there for you, or of knowing that they truly love you. This is why a relationship without intimacy on both levels is pretty much doomed to failure. Once intimacy is lost or if it never existed in a relationship, it takes a lot of determination and commitment to get intimacy back in the relationship. After all, intimacy in a relationship is what human-beings crave, it’s a basic need that must be met for any relationship to succeed.

So let’s look at some of the various types of intimacy we will seek with our partners.

 Spiritual Intimacy
 Intellectual Intimacy
 Physical Intimacy
 Emotional Intimacy
 Intimacy in Love & Romance
 Marriage

 Intimate relationships serve a great purpose in our human experience and existence. When we talk about being intimate in a romantic relationship, we often associate it to physical intimacy, but physical intimacy is just one form of intimacy. 

Intimacy is a process whereby we feel truly seen, heard & known by and connected to, our God, partner or on a more basic level, to a group; and this can manifest in many ways. When the emotion of romance is blended with the feelings of love and the joys of physical intimacy, then this can be GENIUS.

To create the ultimate, a great sense of commitment and fidelity is required. For a good intimate, love relationship to be a success, it requires work and one cannot achieve success in anything unless one applies the necessary ingredients of commitment, desire, and most of all HARD WORK…
 

The online weekly #RelationshipTip program by my humble self (king Joseph) coming back soon…every Sundays as usual – this time stronger like #Nsido?

‘Still On Acme Matter; Gov. Ambode Has Forgotten His Source.’ – Primate Charles Odugbesi, JP. Former State Secretary, AC., ACN. APC.


Primate

Lately, a ripple has been created on social media over an underground lamentations by the state party, APC faithfuls claiming the Governor Akinwunmi Ambode-led Administration has abandoned them and the party ‘his Producer’ even to hunger, as against the good foundation and legacies laid down by Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and Mr Babatunde Fashola (SAN), Primate Charles Odugbesi, JP. Former State Secretary, AC, ACN, APC, through his Facebook account yesterday has decided to help the party faithfuls regain their rights back from the State Governor by breaking the silence. In his ‘second’ post titled; ‘STILL ON ACME MATTER’. Read below:

STILL ON ACME MATTER
I am very shocked at the volume of calls that I have received on my write-up on the situation at Acme, the state headquarters of All Progressives Congress, APC. Let me state here at this juncture that I did not write the article to play to the gallery or to confront or bring down anybody. The truth must be told and I think I am in the position to know the difference between the past administrations and the present one when it comes to party affairs and welfare, at least I administered the Party as Secretary for two terms. .
Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu who started this system knew that he could not reach every party member by sharing money to them, So with food materials distributed only four times a year, he has been able to reach them convincingly. You have to get to people’s hearts before you can ask for their hands. The periods of Xmas, Fasting of Muslims and Christians and Ileya festivals were the best time for Party faithfuls.. A ram and a bag of rice for each ward. I am talking about a ward of more than 1000 members and yet people were very happy for the gesture. Sometime a member may not eat more than a small portion of meat but the fact that their leader put them in mind was their happiness. If anybody thinks that Asiwaju is using juju for people to love him, it is his act of live and let live that made people who have not even met him face to face want to die for him.

Somebody told me on the phone that rams and rice are given to the wards through the ministries. I nearly collapsed. Is the ministry the Party. We are advocating the supremacy of the party and you are relegating that party. I wish the Governor had visited Acme in those good old days when Party chairmen and their people were coming to collect the yuletide items, he would not have changed that system. Those were the times that those who were not party members usually turned to be members. If you do not allow the Party to take of their people how do you want the people to know that Party is supreme. Whoever pays the piper dictates the tune. If the idea is to control the Party outside the Party secretariat, the resultant effect will not be good. Somebody will get hurt from that action.

Party members out there are not very happy and I want the Governor to do something fast to uplift the present status of the Party and that is for his own good. If he constructs express roads in the sky it is only when he wins the primary that the general public he is trying please now will have the opportunity of voting for him. And if he thinks when that time comes he will use money, he should know that party members are wiser now. They will collect the money and consider it their rights and do their wish. Our state leaders who suppose to tell him the right thing are less concerned. Why? They are taken care off and even if he loses the primary it would not affect them because it would not take them any stress to cooperate with the new winner, afterall it is the Party they are working for.

Those who are going round at this time campaigning for his second term should watch peoples’ countenances and give honest report back to His Excellency. IGBORO KO RERIN O. He is doing fantastically well for the state but should not forget his SOURCE. If he sows positively to the Party, the harvest is his. I don talk my own. Call me names if you like but one thing I am sure of is that whatever we do today becomes history tomorrow.

Primate Charles Odugbesi, JP.
Former State Secretary, AC., ACN., APC.

DOES TRUST GUARANTEE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP II? – king Joseph

#RelationshipTip:

does trust guarantee a successful relationship?

Author: king Joseph (the @strategist_kj)

 

Table of Contents

Preface……………………………………………………………………….……….1

Any Solution Aside Trust?…………………………………………………..2

Fear…………………………………………….……………………….…….……….3

Trust………………………………………………………………………….……….4

Acceptance…………………………………………………………………………5

Acceptance, Non-attachment and Healthy Love……………….6

Non-attachment is still Caring………………..……….………………7

 

  1. Preface

And it shouldn’t, anyway!

When I ask most people how they feel about the risk of infidelity, there are two main answers I usually get, although which are most common. The answers are:

1st “I worry about my partner cheating”

2nd “I trust my partner and believe he/she won’t”

At the same time, there are also very small groups who brush it off with “I just try not to think about it” or even “I wouldn’t care,” but trust me, they’re the minority, you dig…#Nsido?

The second viewpoint, “trust,” is what we uphold and sell to each other as the goal, being one of two secrets to a good and successful relationship – the other being COMMUNICATION – as strongly emphasized in the first part of this article (posted on facebook few months back).

But where does the second one get you? You’re still hanging your emotional wellbeing on someone else’s actions, and if they veer off course, you’re surrendering (or rather, denying) agency over your own happiness. And I ask, #Nsido?…answer me naw…smiles…well, never mind – I can construe your muteness.

  1. Any Solution Aside Trust?

Yes, of course, there’s a better solution than trust!

And it’s something closer to love: “I understand what I do and do not control, that I do not control anything outside of me, and I don’t try to change that. I invest my emotional wellbeing in things I control.”

Assuming I’m on a plane as I write this, so let’s take air travel as an example.

There are two main types of air travelers:

                 1st Traveler: “I am afraid of flying”

2nd Traveler: “I trust that we won’t crash”

Of course, we have a few people who say “I just try not to think about it” or – the truly deranged;  “I wouldn’t care if we crashed.”

  1. Fear

Let’s take another instance on someone who’s always terrified of flying, despite being a manager in finance and having to occasionally travel for work. You know, this person starts each flight heavily self-medicated and ends each flight emotionally fatigued.

You hear them say, after each landing; “Every time I land safely, I feel like I’ve cheated death”

They’re terrified that they have no control over the situation, and her fear is really desperation for control.

But the truthful truth is, you don’t control the plane. You will never have control over the plane. And in the same sense, you will never have control over another human being! HEY! #Nsido? Don’t argue it – agreed!

  1. Trust

A lot of people lean on this one. They point to the statistics  –  more people die in car accidents than plane crashes  –  and they reassure themselves “pilots are professionals  –  they do this every day.” And both of those are true, but what if hell does freeze over? What if that .000001% odd does occur?

To trust is to live in a play-pretend world believing you are special and immune to statistical risk. And maybe you are. Maybe you’re the majority.

And, more importantly, to “trust” alone is to put ourselves at more emotional risk than we need to.

Trusting alone is being over-leveraged and exposed to the heartbreak we’ll experience if it does happen. (And statistically, it could.)

Wanting it, wishing, and hoping aren’t emotional protection.

Where is “trust” going to leave you if the plane is going down, or your partner does cheat? Those subsequent moments are going to be ones of very negative emotions — probably the same ones as the worried woman next to you, except she’ll also be internally (or externally) screaming: “I knew it! I just knew it!”

  1. Acceptance

I am not afraid of flying, but it’s not because I point to the statistics or necessarily even trust the pilots…my brother, a jet pilot in the Air Force, distrusts commercial pilots more than anyone I know. Quote me on this…now!

It’s because I respect the limitations of what I control (now), and I don’t let emotions  (anymore) –  fear included  run wild with what I don’t.

I 101% trust my partner won’t cheat on me. I believe this not only from a position of belief, but rationale. In other words: she is both incredibly loyal and incredibly picky. I trust her (now). But I don’t dump my emotions into what she does.

Just like I also trust that she won’t die in a car accident after I kiss her goodbye in the morning. I believe this, but I also understand that I don’t control this, and I have emotional insurance and a contingency plan in the horrible event that it happens.

I trust. But I also don’t hang my emotional wellbeing on something that is out of my control. NO, I don’t…#Nsido?

I trust that a coffee shop is going to be open. I trust that the street light will turn GREEN – you dig that? I trust that my flight will be on time.

But if it isn’t, it doesn’t destroy me. I deal and don’t hang my emotional wellbeing on external things.

  1. Acceptance, Non-attachment, and Healthy Love

Accept that we have no control over the situation. Look at it, stare it in the face, and say “you belong to the universe, and so do I. Neither you nor the world are my domain.” Lobatan!…#Nsido?

These are the same stance we take with our partners.

It may sound cynical or pessimistic, but it’s not.

It’s not assuming our partner will cheat. It’s still trusting they won’t while respecting that they are their own people, and not confusing our emotions with what we’re actually entitled to.

Trust for Clients – it’s the same way we treat anything else in life …GBAM! I trust that if we make them happy, our clients will want to continue working with us. But I construe that they may one day call me up and say “we’re going with someone else.” Which is not unusual – not in any way, my dear…#Nsido?

Although, it’s very disappointing – so heartbreaking, yeah. It’s fucking shitty  like #Nsido?  I do anything I can to avoid that happening, in my relationship with anyone (especially with my Partner-in-love) and if it does happen, to bring them back. But at the end of the day, I respect that they are running a business, and make their own decisions.

Understanding isn’t cynicism; it’s respect and care for other beings.

It’s eyes-wide-open and open-hearted and fully honest. And most importantly, it is relaxed. It is relaxed not in a denial or blind optimism or “hoping” kind of way, like “trust”, which leaves us vulnerable to being destroyed emotionally should the thing occur.

It’s looking things straight in the eye and saying “I see you for what you are, not what I wish for, and I accept you either way.”

And this is (real) LOVE. I board each flight knowing full well the risks, and not denying them, and I live my life respecting the fact that it can be taken away. I enter relationships the same way now – NO FEAR of the unknown! Know this, fear of the unknown causes unnecessary distrust and gives room for unexpected heart problems – so why give room for it in the first place, #Nsido?

Remember, there are so many things you cannot change, and LIFE OCCURRENCES are just one of these things, followed by human beings. That reminds me what my younger sibling said some years (2002 to be precise) back while I was trying to scold her for doing something (that she was somehow used to) I thought was wrong in the house. After our Mum’s interference, I just looked at her and said; “you’d better change now before you move to your adulthood (which was just few more years to)…” and instantaneously, she replied me in a joking, but serious tone thus; “why or rather how should I change when I’m not a cloth?” Honestly, to me then, that was not just a response, but a very strong (sharp) WORD from a girl of 15! Even our Mom was shocked (to hear that from her) I turned back to face her with a straight-face question, thus I retorted; “Bidemi, what do you mean you’re not a cloth, so you can not change or what?” and now with laughter, she explained; “shey eyin o mo wipe aso ni eyan le paro, won kii n paro iwa. Nitori pe, eefin ni, no matter how you try to cover it up, o maa ru jade shaa nii, so my lovely brother, you cannot change nature, you can only adjust your ways. However, I’m sorry for my actions.”

Lesson learned from my little Sister! A lot will happen in this life (that we cannot change) and in most cases lots of disappointments, put-downs, heartbreaks, betrayal, backstabbing et al by our loved ones – even the ones we trusted most and least expected any of these things from, and we feel so bad and at times try to change them, but the truth is that we just can’t, hence so many end up in a seemingly worse situation (health-wise and otherwise) they never expected, just because they have trusted and put their lives on someone / something so much as if their lives depend on them, that when these things (put-downs) occur, they find themselves at a crossroad? …#Nsido? (why?), They have trusted so much that they never believed they could be let down by them, let alone prepare for it! Talking from EXPERIENCE here – and experience they say “is the best teacher”! In other words, I have learnt lots of lessons in relationship – still in the process though.

I am independent of my partner. And so, my emotional wellbeing is independent of her actions (now).

7.     Non-attachment is still Caring

I would obviously care if my plane went down. I would care if my partner cheated. I would still be afraid if we crashed, and hurt if my partner cheated, but the difference is that, rationale would kick in and remind me, “my partner is her own person, on her own journey. You don’t control her. The only thing you have control over is your own response.”

It’s understanding the domain of our control, the limits to the authority of our emotions, and where to hang our wellbeing. Understanding and respecting the limitations of our control.

We are responsible for our own wellbeing, and we should hang our wellbeing on the thing we control , which is our MINDSET!

We let the rest exist with ACCEPTANCE, which is the same as LOVE.

The online weekly #RelationshipTip program by my humble self (king Joseph) coming back soon…every Sundays as usual – this time, stronger…#Nsido?