Author: King Joseph
Language Used: NEL
Sometimes early in a relationship you may be certain that your partner is in for the long haul while your partner may simply sees it as just a fling.
No new couple is really certain of where their relationship will lead to till after dating for sometime, then you’ll be sure if yours is going to be long-term or not.
Sometimes early in a relationship you may be sure your partner is in for the long haul while your partner simply sees it as just a fling. So how can you tell your relationship is serious or just a bit of amusement/fun for your partner?
Alison Bryant of All Women Stalk lists a few differences from a woman’s point of view:
He Makes Seeing You a Priority:
It’s fine for a couple to spend some time apart.
As a fact, it’s healthy for you to have your own interests. But your partner should make seeing you a priority at least some of the time. If he’d always rather see a game with his friends than go out with you, then he’s really not that enthused about seeing you – and it’s possible that he’s just using you to pass the time.
Meeting The Family And Friends:
Getting serious with someone means that you’ll become part of each other’s families. You’ll also have been introduced to his friends. If, however, you’ve never met his family, and distance isn’t an issue, he probably doesn’t see you as fitting in to that part of his life. And (unless his family are awful) why would someone who was serious about you want to keep you separate – from his family (I add…)?
Talking About The Future:
Can you imagine a future with your partner? Do you talk about plans together such as going on vacation, whether you want children, or buying a home? If you’ve been dating a while but he always changes the subject when you talk about the future, the signs point towards him not seeing this as a serious relationship.
Going in Vs Staying in:
I’m beyond embarrassed when I look back and think of one guy I ‘dated’. It was so clear that all he wanted was a fling, but I fooled myself into thinking it was a relationship. If all you ever do as a couple is stay in … it’s not a relationship. A fling is sexual, a relationship involves going out and doing other things together.
One Of You Has Recently Split Up With Your Ex:
While you can’t rule out the possibility that a rebound relationship might actually work, jumping into a new relationship straight after leaving another is usually a mistake. Taking time to recover from the split and working out what you want is more likely to lead to a serious relationship next time around.
He’s A Player:
Does your guy have a reputation for being a player or a flirt? You might just be the one to convert him into a long-term love…but it’s not that likely. Guys who have a series of short-term flings rarely change. A better prospect for a relationship is someone who’s has longer relationships but can also handle being single.
He’s There For You:
Finally, one crucial issue is whether he’s there for you when you need him. Flings don’t want to be bothered with emotional needs, whereas serious guys know that it’s not all fun. Guys who are serious will support you when you’re going through tough times.