You Can Defeat Anxiety

Text: Proverbs 12:25 ~ “Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad”.

Message:

of the weapons of the enemy against the saints is anxiety or worry. He uses it to demoralize Christians or create doubt in their hearts, but the Almighty God has given the saints the weapons they need to overcome anxiety. The first weapon is the good word: You need to hear a good word to defeat anxiety. The good word is found in the Holy Scriptures; therefore, find a scripture that is related to that worry, declare it to yourself, and the anxiety will disappear. The second weapon is to give thanks and praise to God for what He has done for you; as you sing and thank Him, the burden of worry will be lifted from you. The last weapon is to pray, especially in other tongues, and the Holy Ghost will crush the anxiety. Hallelujah!

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GOOD MUSIC PAYS EVEN BETTER!

Written By king Joseph

Founder/CPS @successmedia_a

(a subsidiary of KING JOSEPH SUCCESS WORLD)

Preface:

Every local, juju, or traditional, afro and Fuji Musicians/Artistes are with proves jazz men who are in other words fortified by these traditional power, dine and wine with those in charge as guardians/custodians (priests).

My Question:

You know why? It’s because they love, cherish, adore and respect so much traditions and custom and of cause, don’t tell me that you don’t know that when a man believes so much and respect his tradition, he’ll do everything to protect and gain immensely from it.

Hence, you see King Sunny Ade, Oliver DeCoque (late), Chief Osita Osadebe, Sir Shina Peters, Fela Anikulapo Kuti & Sons, Dr Victor Owaifo, Sir Victor Olaiya, Chief Bright Chinezie, Ednar Okoli, Christy Essien Ibekwe, Christ Okotie, Felix Liberty, Mike Okri, Yinka Ayefele, Chief Aruna Ishola and Son, Chief Ayinde Marshal K1 de Ultimate, King (Alhaji) Saheed Oshupa (Obanla 1), Alhaji Wasiu Alabi Pasuma, Barrister Wasiu Ayinde, Ayinla Omowura, Kayode Fashola, Femi Kuti, Seun Kuti. Onyeka Onwenu, Innocent 2Baba Idibia, Eedris Abdul Kareem, Corbams Asuquo, etc are those Artistes/Musicians who have made great impacts, laid down “evergreen” legacies, epic Singers, Legends, and icons, famous and wealthier than you can ever imagine all through music.
They were too traditional to be deceived by any particular religion, that has become one of the major reasons for the global crisis and terrorism.

But, have you ever asked why these great people of Nigeria/Africa have been able to make it this far in spite of all odds, government harassment and numerous arrests whenever they pour out their minds in fight against our (Nigeria) very bad and evil Idiotic and greedy politicians/and Leaders, who have almost succeeded in sucking this once great a Nation (Giants if Africa) dry, thereby ruining it.?

Despite all these and so many challenges they encounter in Nigeria (as a result of our government negligence towards the music/entertainment industry unlike western countries especially America), they still scale through, they came, they saw, and, they conquered as they never gave up, irrespective of the govt negligence and harassments/illegal arrests.

YOU KNOW WHY?
It is because they were very brave and courageous men, knowing that if a man is courageous enough and fears no man, he’ll be able to always stand on his words knowing they’re truths. If you’re brave and courageous enough, in a nutshell, all men will be same and equal to you and you would always want them to be well treated as such and not with disdains and otherwise.

So, they were using their music/songs to change Nigeria/Africa and the world at large and these bad Leaders (who can still be found in our current government, but thank God at least we still have hope for a very long time in the country on PMB & few of his cabinet members to help restore our lost hope, at least to help clear our doubts that for once we can trust on our Leaders and Govt to making this country a “Giant of Africa” again). Because they know when you truly believe in something, you should gain something and protection from it (even though, some are too scary and of because too evilish that whatever you think you got from believing and worshipping these great traditions boomerang, some will call them…some say they have gods they worship. Abeg nor be me write this one o…smiles)
They know no man can kill or suffer them permanently, except it is divine. Self beliefs!

Have you listened to #ThisIsNigeria (a song just released by our own Falz)? OmG!!! You’re missing real big, if your answer is “NO”! That is a very good example of the good songs I’m talking about. A song that adresses every areas of life – especially the state of the Nation. Even P. Diddy had to post it on his instagram page and as well promised to promote it massively on Revolt Tv! What more can I say, #Nsido? See screenshot below 👇

These Iconic and Legendary Musicians/Artistes I call Saviours of Nigeria Music Industry. They’re/were Heroes/Heroines of music.

But, I think some of our new generation of Musicians/Artistes are also trying and even harder/better/smarter and which has helped pushed Nigeria Music Industry to second spot in the world.

Thanks to the likes of (randomly) Lagbaja, Innocent 2Face Idibia, Corbams Asuquo, Alhaji Wasiu Alabi Pasuma, King Saheed Osupa, Psquare, D’banj BangaLee, Sound Sultan, Don Jazzy, Femi Kuti, Seun Kuti, Dagrin, Davido Adeleke, Wizkid Ayo Balogun, Olamide Baddo, M.I Abaga, Jesse Jags, Eedris Abdulkareem, Ice Prince Zamani, Patoranking Nnaemeka, Phynofino, Adekunle Gold, Reekado Banks, Tiwa Savage, Asa, Sean Tizzle, Oritse Femi, Sunny Nneji, etc.

Today, Nigeria is second in the world after America. This feat is collectively achieved by the aforementioned Artistes/Musicians through good songs/music and not shits like some wack Artistes who also claim to be good artistes and stars sing.

I guess, I have written more than expected to, but I just need few seconds from you to read this simple messages I intend passing through this article is to simply try to sing good music, that’s if you must sing. With good music with inspirational and motivational messages the general public and the younger generation especially.

Songs that can change man’s minds poor/greedy mentalities.

Songs that campaign against bad governances, religion and ethnic crisis/wars.

Songs that give hopes to the hopeless.

Songs that heal!!!

We are very tired of songs with negative messages and vulgar languages. Songs I can not (even as an Entertainment person) play where my children are or in the presence of my Pastor or church members, so they don’t start seeing me as a bad person through the kinda music I listen to.

At a time like this (in Nigeria), all what we all should be listening to is something that inspires, motivates and addresses the bad leadership/governance in this once a “Giant of Africa” of ours. Songs that change us positively with better influence and not the other way round, mbok, #Nsido?

Enough of all these pangolo (noisy music with no sense) shits! With good music, who says you can’t make it big and even very BIG?
2Baba Idibia, with good music till date (plus his other good attributes that are also of great help).
Cobhams, Oritse Femi, Sound Sultan, Dagrin (late), Timi Dakolo, Kiss Daniel, Adekunle Gold, etc have all made it very big by singing good music. So, why can’t you make it with good music.

Thank you so much for your time with #KingJoseph
(omo Iya Geebu Alata)…but please, I need your help with the title, I didn’t know the suitable one for this piece.

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Mr Nsido

DON’T CHEW MORE THAN YOU CAN SWALLOW

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Don’t Chew More Than You Can Swallow
By king Joseph (the @strategist_kj)

Edited By: Ms Adebukola Ijaola (@qbs_creatives)
Co-edited By: Ademuyiwa Castrol

Languages Used: Simple English For All (SEA), Efik, Pidgin and Yoruba

Dialogue:
Talking to my Ghetto Soljas.
#TeamNsido? #TeamStreet

king Joseph: “How far naw, omo iya mi (my blood)? Hope say evri evri dey go well with you ba?”

Jamani: “Boss, awa wa o…in chorus; “awon ota lo jon.
“Bo se ma je niyen Oga mi, Olorun, no shakement in your own voice” (actually, Don invented that word…smiles) he added.

Don’t chew more that you can swallow…lest you vomit – literary

It Begins…
I smiled because, I was happy with that response considering the strength and strong spirit that came with it – perhaps, in it. Despite the effects of this economy crisis of our once the obvious ‘Giant of Africa’. He believes in his hustle still – my kind! Nsido?
He looked down casted & worried somehow though (considering the magnitude of his challenges…just recently, his younger brother publicly humiliated/almost beat him up ‘a family man’ because he’s not financially capable) – he’s a man; it happens to all – we feel tired somehow often times “HUMAN BODY”.

He’d run to me for consolation whenever he’s down, hence, I took good advantage to reignite his fire to enable him know why he has to speak to what will bring about that #PEACEFULLIFE (which in every sane land, everyone strives for nothing short of). And so, I decided to ‘help’ encourage him, thus: “Omo iya mi, Don’t Chew More Than You Can Swallow’. Never try it, not even when you feel like, because of the kind of challenges life is throwing at you for some while now. Hey, bro! I have mine too, but the only thing that helps to keep me going is this popular saying; ‘tough times don’t last, tough people do’. I try not (especially, more now) to run faster than my shadow – no man can! So as not to miss that right path that brings about great achievements, happiness and PEACE of mind to me – to ‘Us’.

I don’t know, but I think that might as well work for you – if you try it more? Still same? I know but he sighed and said; ‘ ohun yen niyen, Oga mi. Baba in spirit, o shey’. Flattered (I smiled), but I don’t know, I just wanted to take control – perhaps. I wanted him (you) to see at least a high point in my talking mood. Listen, my brother, it will all CONNECT soon, regardless. Iyanu ma shele, everything go fall in place no matter how far you’ve been hustling harder, endeavor to do the following:
1. Try to be as humble as you can to all that cross your path in life.

2. Run from debt (unnecessary ones).

3. Oh, permit me, be as faithful as you can to God and love all!

4. Be kind to mankind, no barrier.

5. Be generous – in your little way…

6. Pay your tithes regularly (which I am also trying hard to make a habit now).

7. And try as much as possible to be in peace with everyone – not bear grudges with any – regardless (if you do find yourself already doing this, then endeavor to make amend) even when you think you are not fully at fault (perhaps something triggered your anger, don’t worry, it is normal, we all human, we all have our limits – every man. We all get pushed to the wall (some over the wall) and at this moment, we feel like turning back to face ‘IT’; we get mad, very paranoid, we feel like pouring our minds out – opening the bottle tends to be the only solution. And some, feel like breaking things, throwing foul languages at the other, throwing punches and kicks will want to sound the best reaction to them while some will feel like resigning from their bills – paying job to freely express their anger et all…

Fine! None of that is bad (so to say, since we’ve been mandated not to judge anyone), but remember, anger destroys and can never be repaired. Do you think your reactions to that situation/attack will bring you the divinely deserved #PEACE and true fulfilment, now and aftermath? Never will it bring you that PEACE you’ve been longing for. The moment you let anger out of your life, then, that PEACE finds you, enter to your life, eat and dime with you. Let what people do to you matter less, be content, be appreciative, see things God’s way, never try to be who you’re not, never envy your fellow human achievements and never look down on yourself or anybody for every time on the clock repeats itself each new day. Use your time wisely cos the next second, minute, hour, day, week, month, year may not favour you. Whatever the Lord gives you, appreciate it and don’t ever forget to give Him praise and worship because that’s one of the ways you can make Him happy.

He’s a dependable God who sees and knows everything and He’s the only unfailing God who does things in miraculous ways which no man can comprehend. To achieve your destiny, you will surely come across bridges or mountains that are very difficult to cross but don’t forget that with God all things are possible.

Listen, no matter how hard the situation you find yourself might be, do not panic or get blown by the wind, thereby dipping your hands in what might end in regret. Know that it has been like that since after the first ‘disobedience; ‘…and man shall sweat to eat…’ but in the end, you’re coming out of it all. Trust GOD for your victory, #Nsido?

Moreover, do not forget that you still have the capacity to change that situation, provided you take it to HIM and be more perseverance .yes, YOU CAN DO IT! Just remain steadfast and keep your FAITH in HIM high. With GOD, everything is P.O.S.S.B.L.E! However, trust the vision (if you don’t have one, create it today and work towards it), believe in yourself like #Nsido?

I have my challenges too. But, hey, this is me, I keep the hustle going and the dream alive. Let me confess to you, King Joseph Success World is an empire – a dream, a vision in progress. Yes, I’M KING JOSEPH, the DREAMER. Even Success MEDIA Africa is named after my unborn Son (Success), which nothing can stop from coming to pass…I’m a WORK in process, because GOD is a GOD of processes…mbok, coming to that another day, #Nsido?

I am not writing this epistle as a rich or made man, but as a typical HUSTLER just like you…yes, you, #Nsido?

Interestingly, there’s always at least a very goof reason for every situation, hence there’s at least a positivity in every challenges (if you look deep, remember that Yoruba saying; ‘ti oju baa fara bale, aa ri’mu’?

At times, God actually wants us to learn something new that’ll catapult us to our #greatness. At times, He’s helping us to avert some unseen evil first – to clear the road for us, perhaps to make us live longer and be stronger…Remember, what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. The best time to be calmer is that trying moments. And so, that is the best time to move closer to and build the most cordial (intimate) relationship with the ONE ‘GOD’ who can do all things with ease and bless us according to Hid riches in glory. We need His mercy and grace more at such period. Don’t go far from His presence and you’ll see Him turning the #tides in your FAVOUR, the ones that’ll make the world scream; ‘God, #Nsido?’ on your behalf!

Believe and be positive in whatever you do (be it good or bad) because whatever we sow we shall reap. For as long as there’s no short cut to the heavenly kingdom of our Father (God), and so, there’s no short cut to #success. There are shortcuts to everything devilish but to everything pure and good are divine journey. It is very certain that any life committed to Jesus cannot be wasted. Faithfully run to Him all the days of your life, surrender all to Him and He will never disappoint you.
Your friends/mates have all made it to the top, enh, agreed, but remember, no late Comer. Besides, our destiny and timing differ, so please, I urge you again, mbok, #DontChewMoreThanYouCanSwallow
#Nsido?

INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

#RelationshipTip By king Joseph

Topic: INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

As thriving beings, intimacy is one of the most important things our souls will always crave. A relationship needs intimacy. Intimate relationships allow partners to become very deeply acquainted & connected to the innermost soul or spirit. Within a good relationship or marriage, there will be several elements of intimacy which will keep it nurtured.

Simple physical affections such as hand-holding, cuddling, hugs and kisses are important to your relationship. These simple actions let you and your partner know that you’re there for one another, that you matter to the other. Intimacy is what helps love to survive through the toughest of times, and makes us continue to want to love and be loved by our partners.

Without intimacy, there is never the security in the relationship of knowing that the other person is there for you, or of knowing that they truly love you. This is why a relationship without intimacy on both levels is pretty much doomed to failure. Once intimacy is lost or if it never existed in a relationship, it takes a lot of determination and commitment to get intimacy back in the relationship. After all, intimacy in a relationship is what human-beings crave, it’s a basic need that must be met for any relationship to succeed.

So let’s look at some of the various types of intimacy we will seek with our partners.

 Spiritual Intimacy
 Intellectual Intimacy
 Physical Intimacy
 Emotional Intimacy
 Intimacy in Love & Romance
 Marriage

 Intimate relationships serve a great purpose in our human experience and existence. When we talk about being intimate in a romantic relationship, we often associate it to physical intimacy, but physical intimacy is just one form of intimacy. 

Intimacy is a process whereby we feel truly seen, heard & known by and connected to, our God, partner or on a more basic level, to a group; and this can manifest in many ways. When the emotion of romance is blended with the feelings of love and the joys of physical intimacy, then this can be GENIUS.

To create the ultimate, a great sense of commitment and fidelity is required. For a good intimate, love relationship to be a success, it requires work and one cannot achieve success in anything unless one applies the necessary ingredients of commitment, desire, and most of all HARD WORK…
 

The online weekly #RelationshipTip program by my humble self (king Joseph) coming back soon…every Sundays as usual – this time stronger like #Nsido?

‘Still On Acme Matter; Gov. Ambode Has Forgotten His Source.’ – Primate Charles Odugbesi, JP. Former State Secretary, AC., ACN. APC.


Primate

Lately, a ripple has been created on social media over an underground lamentations by the state party, APC faithfuls claiming the Governor Akinwunmi Ambode-led Administration has abandoned them and the party ‘his Producer’ even to hunger, as against the good foundation and legacies laid down by Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and Mr Babatunde Fashola (SAN), Primate Charles Odugbesi, JP. Former State Secretary, AC, ACN, APC, through his Facebook account yesterday has decided to help the party faithfuls regain their rights back from the State Governor by breaking the silence. In his ‘second’ post titled; ‘STILL ON ACME MATTER’. Read below:

STILL ON ACME MATTER
I am very shocked at the volume of calls that I have received on my write-up on the situation at Acme, the state headquarters of All Progressives Congress, APC. Let me state here at this juncture that I did not write the article to play to the gallery or to confront or bring down anybody. The truth must be told and I think I am in the position to know the difference between the past administrations and the present one when it comes to party affairs and welfare, at least I administered the Party as Secretary for two terms. .
Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu who started this system knew that he could not reach every party member by sharing money to them, So with food materials distributed only four times a year, he has been able to reach them convincingly. You have to get to people’s hearts before you can ask for their hands. The periods of Xmas, Fasting of Muslims and Christians and Ileya festivals were the best time for Party faithfuls.. A ram and a bag of rice for each ward. I am talking about a ward of more than 1000 members and yet people were very happy for the gesture. Sometime a member may not eat more than a small portion of meat but the fact that their leader put them in mind was their happiness. If anybody thinks that Asiwaju is using juju for people to love him, it is his act of live and let live that made people who have not even met him face to face want to die for him.

Somebody told me on the phone that rams and rice are given to the wards through the ministries. I nearly collapsed. Is the ministry the Party. We are advocating the supremacy of the party and you are relegating that party. I wish the Governor had visited Acme in those good old days when Party chairmen and their people were coming to collect the yuletide items, he would not have changed that system. Those were the times that those who were not party members usually turned to be members. If you do not allow the Party to take of their people how do you want the people to know that Party is supreme. Whoever pays the piper dictates the tune. If the idea is to control the Party outside the Party secretariat, the resultant effect will not be good. Somebody will get hurt from that action.

Party members out there are not very happy and I want the Governor to do something fast to uplift the present status of the Party and that is for his own good. If he constructs express roads in the sky it is only when he wins the primary that the general public he is trying please now will have the opportunity of voting for him. And if he thinks when that time comes he will use money, he should know that party members are wiser now. They will collect the money and consider it their rights and do their wish. Our state leaders who suppose to tell him the right thing are less concerned. Why? They are taken care off and even if he loses the primary it would not affect them because it would not take them any stress to cooperate with the new winner, afterall it is the Party they are working for.

Those who are going round at this time campaigning for his second term should watch peoples’ countenances and give honest report back to His Excellency. IGBORO KO RERIN O. He is doing fantastically well for the state but should not forget his SOURCE. If he sows positively to the Party, the harvest is his. I don talk my own. Call me names if you like but one thing I am sure of is that whatever we do today becomes history tomorrow.

Primate Charles Odugbesi, JP.
Former State Secretary, AC., ACN., APC.

DOES TRUST GUARANTEE A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP II? – king Joseph

#RelationshipTip:

does trust guarantee a successful relationship?

Author: king Joseph (the @strategist_kj)

 

Table of Contents

Preface……………………………………………………………………….……….1

Any Solution Aside Trust?…………………………………………………..2

Fear…………………………………………….……………………….…….……….3

Trust………………………………………………………………………….……….4

Acceptance…………………………………………………………………………5

Acceptance, Non-attachment and Healthy Love……………….6

Non-attachment is still Caring………………..……….………………7

 

  1. Preface

And it shouldn’t, anyway!

When I ask most people how they feel about the risk of infidelity, there are two main answers I usually get, although which are most common. The answers are:

1st “I worry about my partner cheating”

2nd “I trust my partner and believe he/she won’t”

At the same time, there are also very small groups who brush it off with “I just try not to think about it” or even “I wouldn’t care,” but trust me, they’re the minority, you dig…#Nsido?

The second viewpoint, “trust,” is what we uphold and sell to each other as the goal, being one of two secrets to a good and successful relationship – the other being COMMUNICATION – as strongly emphasized in the first part of this article (posted on facebook few months back).

But where does the second one get you? You’re still hanging your emotional wellbeing on someone else’s actions, and if they veer off course, you’re surrendering (or rather, denying) agency over your own happiness. And I ask, #Nsido?…answer me naw…smiles…well, never mind – I can construe your muteness.

  1. Any Solution Aside Trust?

Yes, of course, there’s a better solution than trust!

And it’s something closer to love: “I understand what I do and do not control, that I do not control anything outside of me, and I don’t try to change that. I invest my emotional wellbeing in things I control.”

Assuming I’m on a plane as I write this, so let’s take air travel as an example.

There are two main types of air travelers:

                 1st Traveler: “I am afraid of flying”

2nd Traveler: “I trust that we won’t crash”

Of course, we have a few people who say “I just try not to think about it” or – the truly deranged;  “I wouldn’t care if we crashed.”

  1. Fear

Let’s take another instance on someone who’s always terrified of flying, despite being a manager in finance and having to occasionally travel for work. You know, this person starts each flight heavily self-medicated and ends each flight emotionally fatigued.

You hear them say, after each landing; “Every time I land safely, I feel like I’ve cheated death”

They’re terrified that they have no control over the situation, and her fear is really desperation for control.

But the truthful truth is, you don’t control the plane. You will never have control over the plane. And in the same sense, you will never have control over another human being! HEY! #Nsido? Don’t argue it – agreed!

  1. Trust

A lot of people lean on this one. They point to the statistics  –  more people die in car accidents than plane crashes  –  and they reassure themselves “pilots are professionals  –  they do this every day.” And both of those are true, but what if hell does freeze over? What if that .000001% odd does occur?

To trust is to live in a play-pretend world believing you are special and immune to statistical risk. And maybe you are. Maybe you’re the majority.

And, more importantly, to “trust” alone is to put ourselves at more emotional risk than we need to.

Trusting alone is being over-leveraged and exposed to the heartbreak we’ll experience if it does happen. (And statistically, it could.)

Wanting it, wishing, and hoping aren’t emotional protection.

Where is “trust” going to leave you if the plane is going down, or your partner does cheat? Those subsequent moments are going to be ones of very negative emotions — probably the same ones as the worried woman next to you, except she’ll also be internally (or externally) screaming: “I knew it! I just knew it!”

  1. Acceptance

I am not afraid of flying, but it’s not because I point to the statistics or necessarily even trust the pilots…my brother, a jet pilot in the Air Force, distrusts commercial pilots more than anyone I know. Quote me on this…now!

It’s because I respect the limitations of what I control (now), and I don’t let emotions  (anymore) –  fear included  run wild with what I don’t.

I 101% trust my partner won’t cheat on me. I believe this not only from a position of belief, but rationale. In other words: she is both incredibly loyal and incredibly picky. I trust her (now). But I don’t dump my emotions into what she does.

Just like I also trust that she won’t die in a car accident after I kiss her goodbye in the morning. I believe this, but I also understand that I don’t control this, and I have emotional insurance and a contingency plan in the horrible event that it happens.

I trust. But I also don’t hang my emotional wellbeing on something that is out of my control. NO, I don’t…#Nsido?

I trust that a coffee shop is going to be open. I trust that the street light will turn GREEN – you dig that? I trust that my flight will be on time.

But if it isn’t, it doesn’t destroy me. I deal and don’t hang my emotional wellbeing on external things.

  1. Acceptance, Non-attachment, and Healthy Love

Accept that we have no control over the situation. Look at it, stare it in the face, and say “you belong to the universe, and so do I. Neither you nor the world are my domain.” Lobatan!…#Nsido?

These are the same stance we take with our partners.

It may sound cynical or pessimistic, but it’s not.

It’s not assuming our partner will cheat. It’s still trusting they won’t while respecting that they are their own people, and not confusing our emotions with what we’re actually entitled to.

Trust for Clients – it’s the same way we treat anything else in life …GBAM! I trust that if we make them happy, our clients will want to continue working with us. But I construe that they may one day call me up and say “we’re going with someone else.” Which is not unusual – not in any way, my dear…#Nsido?

Although, it’s very disappointing – so heartbreaking, yeah. It’s fucking shitty  like #Nsido?  I do anything I can to avoid that happening, in my relationship with anyone (especially with my Partner-in-love) and if it does happen, to bring them back. But at the end of the day, I respect that they are running a business, and make their own decisions.

Understanding isn’t cynicism; it’s respect and care for other beings.

It’s eyes-wide-open and open-hearted and fully honest. And most importantly, it is relaxed. It is relaxed not in a denial or blind optimism or “hoping” kind of way, like “trust”, which leaves us vulnerable to being destroyed emotionally should the thing occur.

It’s looking things straight in the eye and saying “I see you for what you are, not what I wish for, and I accept you either way.”

And this is (real) LOVE. I board each flight knowing full well the risks, and not denying them, and I live my life respecting the fact that it can be taken away. I enter relationships the same way now – NO FEAR of the unknown! Know this, fear of the unknown causes unnecessary distrust and gives room for unexpected heart problems – so why give room for it in the first place, #Nsido?

Remember, there are so many things you cannot change, and LIFE OCCURRENCES are just one of these things, followed by human beings. That reminds me what my younger sibling said some years (2002 to be precise) back while I was trying to scold her for doing something (that she was somehow used to) I thought was wrong in the house. After our Mum’s interference, I just looked at her and said; “you’d better change now before you move to your adulthood (which was just few more years to)…” and instantaneously, she replied me in a joking, but serious tone thus; “why or rather how should I change when I’m not a cloth?” Honestly, to me then, that was not just a response, but a very strong (sharp) WORD from a girl of 15! Even our Mom was shocked (to hear that from her) I turned back to face her with a straight-face question, thus I retorted; “Bidemi, what do you mean you’re not a cloth, so you can not change or what?” and now with laughter, she explained; “shey eyin o mo wipe aso ni eyan le paro, won kii n paro iwa. Nitori pe, eefin ni, no matter how you try to cover it up, o maa ru jade shaa nii, so my lovely brother, you cannot change nature, you can only adjust your ways. However, I’m sorry for my actions.”

Lesson learned from my little Sister! A lot will happen in this life (that we cannot change) and in most cases lots of disappointments, put-downs, heartbreaks, betrayal, backstabbing et al by our loved ones – even the ones we trusted most and least expected any of these things from, and we feel so bad and at times try to change them, but the truth is that we just can’t, hence so many end up in a seemingly worse situation (health-wise and otherwise) they never expected, just because they have trusted and put their lives on someone / something so much as if their lives depend on them, that when these things (put-downs) occur, they find themselves at a crossroad? …#Nsido? (why?), They have trusted so much that they never believed they could be let down by them, let alone prepare for it! Talking from EXPERIENCE here – and experience they say “is the best teacher”! In other words, I have learnt lots of lessons in relationship – still in the process though.

I am independent of my partner. And so, my emotional wellbeing is independent of her actions (now).

7.     Non-attachment is still Caring

I would obviously care if my plane went down. I would care if my partner cheated. I would still be afraid if we crashed, and hurt if my partner cheated, but the difference is that, rationale would kick in and remind me, “my partner is her own person, on her own journey. You don’t control her. The only thing you have control over is your own response.”

It’s understanding the domain of our control, the limits to the authority of our emotions, and where to hang our wellbeing. Understanding and respecting the limitations of our control.

We are responsible for our own wellbeing, and we should hang our wellbeing on the thing we control , which is our MINDSET!

We let the rest exist with ACCEPTANCE, which is the same as LOVE.

The online weekly #RelationshipTip program by my humble self (king Joseph) coming back soon…every Sundays as usual – this time, stronger…#Nsido?

 

Remove FEAR and SELF-DOUBT! – King Joseph

The two major obstacles to success and achievement are “fear” & “doubt”.

This is why the average number of times that people try to achieve a new goal is less than one. As soon as they think of the goal, these fears and doubts overwhelm them and like a bucket of water on a small fire, extinguish their desire completely.

Here’s my candid advise, this 2017, try all you can to replace these negative emotions of “FEAR” and “SELF-DOUBT” with positive emotions of “COURAGE” and “SELF-CONFIDENCE” only then can you achieve your goal(s) with unexpected speed.

Reference Quote: “The person interested in #SUCCESS has to learn to view FAILURE as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting to the TOP.” – Joyce Brothers

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