Relationship Tips: KNOW THE FAMILY AND DO THE RIGHT THING! – King Joseph

AUTHOR: King Joseph
Founder/Chief Publicity Strategist,
Success MEDIA Africa.
(a division of King Joseph Success World).

Language Used: SEL (for all)

PRELUDE: Looking into one of the major problems (ignorance of the new age) we face in our relationships. The one we never really think of or take serious these days.

HOLY BIBLE REFERENCES – knowledge:
Fair warning: I know some may be angry with me, for this honest and helpful write-up, but I still have to proceed with what I’m about to write on, for the Holy Bible says; “we should preach the truth in love” [Ephessians 4:15] and I humbly suggest you pick up your Bible and read John 6:60-66
God also tells us through the Prophet Hosea: “My people perish, for a lack of knowledge.” [Hosea 4:6]. And we still do!

Bible References – On Relationship / Dating:
Though, there’s no place in the Bible, that relationship or dating is being discussed. However, since marriage starts from RELATIONSHIP, to DATING, to courtship before leading to marriage, so, what does the Bible say about marriage?

“So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
And God blessed them, and God said to them,
“Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.”
Book of Genesis 1:27-28

Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother
and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Book of Genesis 2:24…meaning, the Parents sincere consents and full blessings are highly needed in every relationship that has to do with “love” especially.

One can see from the Bible and the very biology of the human body that it is natural for a man and a woman to be together.

God created woman because “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). From the beginning of time, as recorded in the Book of Genesis, God planned for man and woman to unite in love and harmony for continuity of his creation, the human race.

True love between a man and a woman leads to marriage. Marriage brings mutual comfort and a family. Children are the fruit and bond of a marriage. The family provides a framework for each family member to grow as a person in love and security.

Now, let’s look at what love really is.
WHAT IS LOVE?
“Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love.”
1st John 4:8

Love is the favorite subject of artists and poets throughout the ages. “Romeo and Juliet,” William Shakespeare’s story about two star-crossed Lovers, is one of the most moving plays ever written (we all know what the major obstacle to their love in this story was…)

The loving kindness of Jesus and Mary’s love for the Christ child are evident on paintings throughout the West (but we all know what happened to them as a result of one’s family disapproval of the relationship).

Also Elizabeth Barrett Browning wrote impassioned love poems to her husband Robert Browning (true love with no unity).

I want to believe we are familiar with Alfred Lord Tennyson’s famous line, “Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.”

The poet Kahlil Gibran wrote “Love is to know the pain of too much tenderness,” and “Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”

Popular music is filled with the subject of love, such as Stardust, the Twenties classic;
“Earth Angel” by the Penguins, perhaps the first rhythm and blues song to become a national favorite in 1954;
“Love is a Many Splendored Thing” by the Four Aces in 1955;
“Time in a Bottle,” the number one ballad by the late Jim Croce in 1973;
“My Heart Will Go On” by Celine Dion, the theme song from the 1997 movie Titanic…hmm love oh love displayed by these people; and the number one country song “Would You Go With Me” by Josh Turner in 2006. The beautiful love song “Home” by Philip Philips in 2012 is the only recording to ever make the top ten three times in one year. Love makes the world go round!

Loving someone and being loved brings happiness. There are many loves in one’s life, such as your spouse or sweetheart, your parents, your family and children, or your best friend. We all want and need love. This is essential to the human race. We need to help each other, cooperate with each other, and reaffirm each other.

Mystery and a kind of mysticism surround love.
Hmm…my question for you now is; why do people fall in love?

Sighs…the heart is the seat of the emotions, one of the three spiritual centers of the person, along with the intellect and the will. It was the French writer Blaise Pascal in his Pensées who said “Le coeur a ses raisons que la raison ne connait point”
Meaning: “the heart has its reasons of which the mind knows nothing.”

The higher emotions, such as love, joy, sorrow, or contrition, cannot be willed, but suddenly well up in a person, and pervade his whole being.

God is important to our love relationship, there’s no any doubt about this.
Even the greatest Fools know this, so AGREED!!!

Love of God grows as you mature in life. We become grateful for all His gifts, such as the beauty of creation and our family. And we become especially grateful for His forgiveness when we fall. His gifts to us are so plentiful that it becomes only fair and natural that we love him. We begin to appreciate that “God is love.” He is a wonderful example of love, because His love is unconditional. We are the happiest when we are living in harmony with God and nature. Someone who loves God will strive to be good, honest, and faithful, and develop all the values necessary to sustain a love relationship through the years.

Let me remind you of the Danish philosopher Soren Kierkegaard (1813-1855) who stresses this important point in Works of Love: “Worldly wisdom thinks that love is a relationship between man and woman. Christianity teaches that love is a relationship between man-God-woman, that is, that God is the middle term.” He then contrasts this with romantic love: “when love ceases, people say these two have a ‘falling out.’ The bond is broken. When a relationship is only between two, one always has the upper hand in the relationship by being able to break it, for as soon as one has broken away, the relationship is broken. But when there are three, one person cannot do this. The third, as mentioned, is love itself, which the innocent sufferer can hold to in the break, and then the break has no power over him.”

So, before nailing the top of this write-up title, need I say that GOD should be your first third and only party ‘the Intermediary’ you must know first and allow in your RELATIONSHIP, even before the Parents/Family and friends.

Love gives one a sense of immortality. The existentialist Kierkegaard described love as uniting the temporal with the eternal. This is best understood when you lose someone you love, such as your mother or father. Even though your loved one has died and is no longer with you on earth, your love lives on for the one you cherish, regardless.

C. S. Lewis in his book “The Four Loves” describes four kinds of human love:
i. affection,
ii. romantic
iii. love,
iv. friendship, and the love of God.
STORGE, or affection, is the natural love a parent has for a child, while, EROS, or romantic love, is the desire two have for each other.
Plato considered eros something like poetic rapture upon seeing the beauty of another. Eros is the longing for the beauty and company of the beloved when two persons fall in love. This is in contrast to someone who has sexual desire without being in love, who wants to use the other strictly for selfish pleasure. A utilitarian relationship, in which the sexual partner becomes an object for use, holds no long-term possibility for joy, fulfillment, or happiness, but rather leaves one empty, disappointed, and ultimately alone.
PHILIA is the love of friendship, but may have conditions. It gives, but may expect something equal in return.
AGAPE is true, unconditional love, a generosity of spirit which gives and expects nothing in return. It is the love that God has for us. It is love at the highest level. The more true love there is between a man and a woman, or among family and friends, the more successful the relationship.

Oh! How much I love these following famous Biblical passages about love and choosing a husband or wife.

“Place me as a seal upon your heart,
like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
its ardor endures to the grave.
It burns with blazing flame,
a raging fire.
Torrents of rain cannot quench love;
nor floods sweep it away.
Song of Songs 8:6-7

“Love is patient,
love is kind;
love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.”
I Corinthians 13:4-8

Oh! True love, sweet love as of old. This kind of love I always tell people that I cherish most, thus making an old age Lover man.
Hmm…I really wonder what has happened to the new age “love.”

Behold, relationships these days have turned upside down, that I still can not fathom how pathetic it has become now, that I can only ask:
Why?
It is obvious that, most are caused by some family/Parents/Guardians, Friends and Siblings (who I consider as unnecessary third Parties)…oh, one of my many daughters (Zainab) just mentioned “SECURITY”…but, I assume it is rather, “over-security” or still, “GREED”, SELF-CENTREDNESS”, “ENVY” et al….

Any which way, allow me proceed by giving the ordeals we now face in our suppose-to-be sweet love and enjoyed relationship. The facts so many writers shy away from, or may I say they just see as normalcy but a very big problem/obstacle to any serious relationship, despite all the good promises of agape love to us by God and the assurance by His Apostles, et al.

The Ordeals:
With the way things are going in most homes,
The way relationships are breaking;
The way so many ladies out there are so determined when it comes to breaking hearts, some even derive joy from this (evil) act,
The way some men see some women’s’ heart as just mere Oranges…,
The way we hurt our partners without feeling remorse about it,
The way we allow insecurity in our relationships – this has broken so many relationships right before their own eyes…hmmm.
The way we allow our partners go in silent pains and agony and never realized or cared about it.

Lots of men/women have emotionally been traumatized, believe me, some have even lost their sanity, all in the name of “Love.”

The wrong impressions some families/parents create before their child’s/ward’s Partner.

The way some family members will just come into the already editing-in-progress picture and (jealously) decide to ruin it.

The way they detest their child’s/wards Partner with passion and will not stop at anything to destroy the relationship, while some will even go spiritual against you or your life, just because they don’t like, want you or there’s a curse or some kind of evil covenant in the family that is against your relationship or even you getting married…this is very wide to want to start explaining. I can only wish you construe this from the right angle.

Some families are so cruel and evilish (add it to your dictionary), that all they are well capable of doing is rendering you useless in life…you hear something like; “by the time we make him lose all he has that makes him/her thinks he/she can take our “tool” or “successor” away from me/us. And this is either because; the one in question is truly their tool as they claim, physically or spiritually, or of a truth, consciously/unconsciously their successor in the spiritual realm. My dear, ma teri si o…I implore you to distantly avoid this kind of family, once you have “gracefully” discovered this!
Listen, some parents/parent (or siblings/friends) can do anything to stop your relationship, separate you, cause misunderstanding, disagreement, unusual and frequent quarrels/fights, frustrate your life and some even lead to death (here, their mission is accomplished. Lobatan!)…hmm, please, know the “family” (parents/guardians) first!

Some family members are so frustrated in life that, anyone who is coming in as an in-law-to-be MUST be very wealthy regardless, or capital “NO” is the only word existing in the dictionary. The love and care you “guys” share does not concern them a bit, because they already have a suitor for their child/ward. GREED and SELF-CENTREDNESS!!!

There are types of people who only care about flashy things…I call them “Instant Noodles” family, because they don’t care about tomorrow, what they only know is sharp, sharp, as e dey hot; they are too hungrily dependent that the moment you stop giving them is the moment you turn their “worst in-law” they’re already making plans to change Client (you)…you have expired, as far as they are concerned! Is this what you want? Are you sure you can handle or manipulate this kind of situation?

They don’t care what the Partner is into, if he/she likes mey hin be Yahoo guy, Ashewo (sex worker), Gbewiri (armed robber), money Ritualist, etc…listen, they – DON’T – GIVE – A – DAMN!

Therefore, my dear, please, I implore you to stay away sharp, if you know you’re not in that category,…oh, you are the good guy/girl who still believes in his/her self worth and future, so, you’re not ready to join such for love, I repeat, STAY AWAY! Do not try to prove anything. Just wish him/her good luck and peacefully, walk away, while you still can, and your life with you.
Sighs…there is nothing as dangerous, and if care is not taken, as quick to–take-ones-life as being in a relationship with/marry the wrong one and especially, from a wrong house.

The Principal Cause?
Yes! I also know that it’s long been widely known and accepted that Devil does not want any peaceful home/marriage (starting from dating). Agreed! But behind every problem, there is at least a corrective solution, like one of my favorite quotes says: “If you are able to yourself, then you have no competition. All you have to do is get closer and closer to that essence.” So, what we should be asking and focusing on for now, is:

The Way Forward?
I really cannot remember if I asked the question, but I sure do remember that I was lying down on the bed, trying to sleep for a while, when I came about it. And I rose up! So I am throwing it to you; What is the way …. Oh! I think I have an ancient insight first, and that is;

The Origin:
Here, I think one of the major problems we are facing is from our poor negligence and CIVILIZATION. Hence, we need to revisit our true culture – the importance of knowing the family/parents, before serious commitment with that special person is allowed to come in.

Oh! That reminds me of one of (Dr) Saheed Osupa’s epic songs, titled : “OLAJU DE” talks more about how marriage was being carried out in the days of the old…gone were the days

the lyrics go thus;
“…olaju deee
Olaju de, lawa gbagbe asa idile wa…” (Meaning; we’ve forgotten our culture due to civilization).

Time is really calling our attention back to the old ways of doing things the right way. These days, we really do not care about where the prospective partner is from “by see,” too but, “by say” alone– NO!!!

We all have fallen victims of this severally, and that is why higher percentages of fresh relationships break just like egg…so easily!

Please hold on, I know you are already asking questions like, “What does he mean…kind of question, huh?
How can one marry someone without knowing the family – without the consent of the Parents vice versa?
Yes! You are right there – but, let me ask this, how many guys or ladies take time to do an underground research on that man/woman’s parent / immediate family before dating? Mind you, this does not apply to every relationships though; I am talking about intending serious relationships here.

See “Know The Differences Between Serious Relationship And A Fling” here: http://t.co/bj7wURHbLb

Knowing the family first, before proceeding with the relationship/dating (commitment) is very vital…as important as having to lay a foundation for your building construction first.

I know and still remember that, Colossians 3:20 and Ephesians 6:1-3 admonish children to obey their parents “in the Lord, for this is right” and “in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.” These go hand-in-hand with Commandment five in Exodus 20:12, “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord your God gives you.”

I also looked in the John Macarthur study Bible to see what he has to say about these complementary verses. About the fifth Commandment he writes, “The key to societal stability is reverence and respect for parents and their authority.” About the Ephesians passage he says, “The child in the home is to be willingly under the authority of parents with obedient submission to them as the agents of the lord placed over him, obeying parents as if obeying the Lord Himself.” He also says that while verse 1 is about action, verse 3 refers to your attitude toward your parents. Finally, regarding Colossians, he writes, “The only limit on a child’s obedience is when parents demand something contrary to God’s Word.” which is where and exactly what I am hammering on here.

I believe scripturally, the starting point is your (and your boyfriend’s) attitude toward your parents. You must continue this conversation and make your decision from a position of honor and respect. They are due that, at a minimum, even if you don’t think they deserve it and regardless of what you decide. If you have any doubts about your attitude toward your mom and dad, ask your pastor or mature Christian mentors what they think about your attitude. Is it Godly?

However, what happens when you discover that the new family from which you’re going to have new parents-in-law are not ready to support your already established relationship for their own unGodly reasons?

Remember this popular Yoruba saying? “Iyawo buruku se’ ni, ana buruku ni o se’ nii.”

NOTE: these are the people you unarguably marrying and not your partner in the real sense…if they are not at peace with you, and in harmony with your togetherness, you might find it very difficult protecting that courtship/marriage on your own, irrespective of your values, beliefs about true love, or sacrifices, trust me. A lot is attached to this which I really am not going to start to worry you with, for now, but, I’ll sure like to add few more tips.

At the very beginning of the feeling(s), I humbly but strongly suggest each of the (secret) parties involved – the “Determiners” role on this, comes first here as he/she only, knows what he/she has seen, admired and unconsciously developing feelings for should make thorough research….

My dear, one thing that as a person, I have learned about such feelings…ok, I’ll try to come back to this as soon as I can…
Oh! Sorry, you say? Like I said, I am coming back to this, ok.
My dear, it is very simple! Now, I know that, God has given us the power to have control over some things and the control over our bodies and minds are part of those amazing powers!

Hey! Control the feelings first. Manage the affection or whatever it is that is captivating you about him/her – focus more on doing the right thing first…go out of your ways to know more about his/her family member(s). Try to know if you are going into even a better home away from yours, else, turn back at the early stage!

Instead of taking this step, the bulk of us want to get it done by ourselves…brother/sister, don’t be too anxious when in love with a lady/guy, that you want to do everything on your own – e dey boomerang o, I swear down. Some family ways of life , enh…dey reflect on the person’s life (and this, you might not be conscious of, because you’re already deep into that think called “love”), wey you dey fall for, only if you know what I mean here…experience, they say is the best teacher! Like they say, “Charity begins at home.” remember?

Work On The RELATIONSHIP
In addition, after successfully knowing your next destination, what you need to do, to enjoy your relationship or intending matrimony are discussed below:

When you per adventure meet someone you like (which is very normal and certain to happen), you take a step forward, make sure that the steps you’re taking are the ones towards:
Knowing her first – this is very essential, please, do not allow your feelings/emotions push/control you to just taking funny decisions as to just going straight to luring her/him into any serious thing, because you’re “funningly” (add it to your dictionary) in “it-could-be-a-self-heart-breaking” love with that fellow.
Knowing his/her past, present and her future intent(s). Know her experience so far (relationship wise) this matters a whole lots too, but may not be a criterion.

And next things you must know about him/her on your own, secretly, but wisely, in order not to arouse suspicion or insecurity, are:

i. win her heart,

ii. be convinced that the parents are God-fearing people at least, irrespective of the religion,

iii. win at least (prefer\ably the mother),

iv. know and weigh the relationship between your Partner and his/her immediate family – this is very important…!

v. make sure you at least get closer to one of his/her closest siblings and friends. You must first make sure these two categories of people like and endorse you too, and very well that they can always watch your back, anytime, any day,
vi. they must be well treated by you – make them feel very comfortable anytime they are around you,

vii. build that trust between you guys; so they can see you as one that is prepared for the journey with their Sister/Brother,

viii. display sense of responsibility,

ix. surprise her/him by knowing & (wisely) creating some kind of good acquaintances with at least some of the family members, even before he/she introduces you to them. You really do not know how much joy this action would bring to her/him and the family when they get to know what’s going on between you two.

x. and lastly, KNOW THE FAMILY/PARENTS at the early stage and DO THE RIGHT THINGS, before you drown in LOVE!

I PRAY WE DON’T FALL VICTIMS AS WE CHOSE TO LOVE!
HAVE A BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE!!
PEACE OUT!!!

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My Special Gift For You This New Year. – King Joseph

BE MORE CREATIVE THIS YEAR.


King Joseph

After being part of my awesome 2016, I have decided to also pay you back with this little but helpful piece, to also contribute to your successful new YEAR.

My dear Readers, to really take full advantage of this 2017, you must be ready to be more “CREATIVE” with your set goals…

C – Clarify your GOALS and continue working on being, having, and achieving more and more of the things you have set out (REAL WANTS) to achieve this year.

R – Refuse to rationalize, make excuses and Rise above others OPINIONS (they do not matter).

E – Envy and Enthusiasm: from yourself from negative emotion of ‘envy’ and replace it with the positive emotion of ‘enthusiasm’.

A – Attend as many seminars, workshops and summit for personal and professional growth/development as possible.

T – Take charge of your own life.
Reference Quote: “a man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with – a man is what he makes of himself.” – Alexander Graham Bell.
In other words, ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY! Realize that no one else is responsible, but YOU. After doing this, trust your intuition and forge ahead!

I – Imagine No Limitation and also identify how your own thinking has created your world, then ask yourself this question: “what should or could I change?

V – VALUES: clarify your values in this year (starting from now) and beyond – remember, your values they say determines your beliefs, about yourself and the world around you.

Reference Quote: “one universe made up of all that is: and one God in it all, and one principle of being, and one law, the reason shared by all thinking creatures, and one truth.” – Marcus Aurelius
What are your VALUES?

E – Exhibit the intense burning desire of achieving your goals for the year and ensure consistency.

Above all, make a resolution to FEAR GOD, LOVE OTHERS (too), be KIND (to people) and be more HUMBLE to ALL.

HAPPY AND MORE PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR TO YOU, Sir/Ma.! My prayer is to see and hear from you ‘HAPPILY’ in December 31st (and beyond) by His grace.

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SAFE OUR WOMEN! – King Joseph

Safe Our Nation…

WRITER: King Joseph
Language Used: SEL (for all)

I wonder why I’ve not seen/heard anyone talked about this.

I was going to Obalende from Ikorodu recently and I saw a lady inside the bus… And I was like omg!!!

Wow! What a very naturally and stunningly beautiful fair a lady!

Hey! Please get this, I can still remember vividly how many fair women I have dated (in the past) just with lesser fingers-count…so, I really do not admire them as much as dark ladies. Black is beauty, most agreed!

But, reverse was the case with this fair and naturally beautiful a female Conductor as she possesses a beauty to behold!

Oh! Remembering the title of this write-up, I beg you permit me to say; despite, my strong self-believe and pride, (that which I think in every man, there is) I admire, love and respect women a lot. Especially the ones like the beautiful Lady (Conductor) that I saw in that TATA Bus.

Now, get my message clearly, I am not condemning her or her job. I seriously appreciate hard-working and courageous women, because, my Mum is one.

I like more, women, especially young ladies from this planet…and generation, who are always ready to go out of their ways – shame shame and do other kind of jobs/works, to earn living and become someone in life, rather than selling their bodies or stealing to survive…with silly excuses.

I want to believe you all know how hard these Conductors (Agbero/Ape’ro) work, and loudly they have to shout to get passengers in their respective Buses?
How much sweat, how dirty and rough the bulk of them look?
Well, I know you would say; “after all, they’re at work” yes they are, but don’t you also have one you do?
Is that how you look at your own work place too…oh, you say?

Anyway, that is not my point. I ran after the moving bus, (you know as e dey go for we Lasgidi nah…) for which I was hearing different Lagos ‘tarmac’ slangs like: “Ketu, Ojota, Anthony, Oshodi Eko” repeatedly.
Note: I’d intended joining the LAMATA “Blue” Bus, initially.

The voice was this sweet thick voice of a young lady, but I never noticed well, because she was backing me while I hurriedly hopped in the bus, so I don’t miss it…that na we lasgidi way o, and we don dey used to am sha, agreed (tough, I’m tired of it already, I can’t wait to get a good ride as soon as possible by the grace of God.)

Hmmm…my mouth was left ajar, upon seeing the “face” ‘before’ the “Back” I saw while jumping into the bus. I felt even sadder when she got to my side while collecting fares from the Passengers.

My goodness!!! I interjected. You just needed to see how charmingly beautiful she looks…she’s in her early twenties, I guess. Young you say, right?
Yes, what a young, hard-working, ambitious she must be too, I assume!

Meanwhile, the first question that came to my mind was; “why chose to be an “Agbe’ro” (Conductor) amongst other better jobs for a young and very beautiful girl like her around?

Only then, did I remember that, there’s no good job (lack of employment) in the country.
And the few that are available are base on man-know-man, kick-backs (males) and “let’s meet at ‘Scratch My Back I Scratch Yours’ Hotel” (females). Hmm.

Worst still, Sex Hawking, Fraud and Robbery and obviously, she “the Conductor” prefers what she’s doing to any of the aforementioned! Hmm.

Perhaps, she’s only protecting her body for her future husband, amidst the alarming rate of lack employment, ever-growing rate of prostitution; which has been repackaged with different names like: “Olosho,” “Runs Girls” etc…even though all of us know sey asewo (sex-hawker, otherwise referred to by me as Body/Dignity Trader) na asewo. What a life! Sister, that is God’s Temple you are trading for money that can not bring you true HAPPINESS in life. So get it right!

Throughout the journey, I was just staring at this young lady, definitely not lusting after her body, but appreciating her courage and strong spirit, while simultaneously appreciating her natural glowing beauty, despite the stress and sweats all over her, couple with the deformity in nature and character and look from the “job,” imagining the amount of “GREATNESS” in her and feeling pity for her…hmm.

That moment, I prayed to God: “Oh Lord please, regardless, do not allow this “beauty” waste away and make her ” destiny Helper” start locating her starting from that moment in Jesus Name.”

Immediately after solemnly rendering the prayers to God on her behalf, I remembered one of my favorite quotes and ‘take-serious’ beliefs in life, which is; “every encounter/meeting in this life is divine and for a very good purpose, either God wants you to gain/learn something from that person or the person from you.” – King Joseph

Just then! It occurred to me that, I could also be one of the destiny Helpers she needs in life, hence I decided to give her my complementary Card, (upon alighting from the bus), I asked her to please give me a call whenever she feels like changing her kind of job for better offer…

Although, I asked myself if I have that capacity to help her out of such job “bus conductor”, in which so many women, both old and young have ‘unwanted-ly’ (add it to your dictionary) found themselves doing, just to survive the increasing hardship in this country.

But, something kept convincing me that I could do it…through my “Connections” et al, even if I am not (financially) in that position to assist/help her. So, I took a step towards changing her “job” for her…
Here, I end this part of the story.

However, with this new trend of our young women resolving into conducting for commuters, some driving Keke NAPEP, and even Danfo, they may start loosing more values in out society, amongst host of other demerits like unsettled home et al, if the general Public and our government really do not look into it as soon as possible. And come to think of it, from the look of things, our government seem to be pleased with this unheard-of menace, seeing their women/mothers engaging themselves in such men-like works.
I thought they say when you empower women, you safe a Nation?
Then why our government neglecting this fact and forcing our women to do works like these in a country like ‘Nigeria’? This should be entirely discouraged! It won’t help change anything better!

Yeah! Our Celebrities and concerned Nigerians are trying their best by coming up with and introducing lots of “Women Empowerment” programs, workshops, seminars and even entertainment events to further enhance the chances of saving our Nation. Like they say; “Empower a Woman, Safe a Nation!” – Anonymous.
“Empower the young, especially the female ones, secure the Future.” – King Joseph.

PLEASE, I AM SOLICITING FOR OUR WOMEN, WE NEED MORE EMPOWERMENT (with selfless criteria…the ones for all to benefit from) PROGRAMS in our SOCIETY!

Personally, I do not think they belong to such labor market.
Time for our Churches, Mosques, more Celebrities, Elites, Politicians, Federal Ministries, Commissions, Federal Government, State Governments, Local Government and Wards, NGOs, able Individuals and all Concerned Nigerians to put up women empowerment programs more, quarterly or even annually (to start with), to take our women off the streets vice versa.

To be continued…

GOD BLESS OUR WOMEN!
GOD BLESS OUR MOTHERS!!
GOD BLESS NIGERIA!!!

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SOURCES THAT MADE US SHADOWS Pt 1. – King Joseph

Author: King Joseph
Founder/Chief Publicity Strategist Success MEDIA Africa
(a division of King Joseph Success World).
Edited By: Samuel Ayo Okoloba

Preface: sources that made us shadow literally. How the Blacks sold their birth rights.

Years of the old, Gone to those days, Africans have been blessed thoroughly with myths, legends and black magic.`

Reference: SANGO Sango, used to be a warlord, he was a legend agreed, but he lost his pride to this latter wives. Much ado with nothing.

SANGO’S FAULT
Sango married these two wives matrimonially and later married ‘Oya’ the uttermost illegally, like how? Sango’s legally wives named Obi & Orogbo, that were their names,
OBI – COLA
OROGBO – BITTER COLA

A warlord It is so much worthy talking and even to the extreme of soliloquy. Sango taught he countenanced, but the fault is he fell like an elephant troubled with an ant, the ant is the wives he married,

Sango was a hero and he had chamberlains; meaning he was a King, and then to be a king not now, Sango’s brother ought to be on the throne still, people saw Sango to be an activist and then said warlord…

Sango went to the market on the set market day and he saw a lady not just a woman because the lady was yet to get married quote: A powerful Human-like-an-animalistic being. OYA!

Likes of Sango exist still; Sango was one of the gods, so I will say “we” beings are gods but not the “GOD” Agreed.

OYA: Very beautiful, gorgeous blonde, that made Sango the warlord and a king made the choice then, but much ado without nothing.

OYA: Possessed! Animalistic Human being.
Sango fell victim by leaving in shadows, he saw it coming.

‘The story starts’ He left his chamberlains for tracing Oya’s ‘Shadows, all shadows.

Sango made it happened by getting her hooked, he walked long miles tracing OYA; OYA knew someone was tracing her Shadows, “she knew”.

OYA: Lives in the cliffs’ waterfalls Sango slept there all nights wanting to have OYA, later on’ He saw Oya coming out from the cliff hole Animalistic and still he waited, and all for shadow tracing… TO BE CONTINUED…!

NOTE: Religion, Tribalism, Racism amongst others to be discussed in Part 2of this piece – how the whites (slave masters) robbed from us (Africans) in exchange for just barbaric religions ethics and doctrines with the aim to cause more division, disunity, violence, unrest among other evil and tricky ones between the Blacks, even with just “Jigi” (Mirror). All ‘shadow.’

What a Foolish trick “We” greedily and selfishly fell for! I pray God forgives them for this crime they committed against lives. It is time to reclaim what’s rightfully ours!

I WEEP FOR MY COUNTRY- Nigeria!!
I WEEP FOR AFRICA!!!
AFRICA, STOP SHADOW CHASE!!!
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SHE WAS BULLIED FOR YEARS BUT NOW THIS DARK-SKINNED BEAUTY IS BREAKING THE INTERNET!

Meet Khoudia Diop, the latest runway sensation who is turning heads in every corner of the map. The dark chocolate skinned beauty was noticed by photographers and designers when she posed for the “Coloured Girl Campaign” a project made to celebrate the diversity and beauty of varying complexions within the black community.

The the stunning Senegalese model hit the ground running and has yet to stop, climbing her way of the high fashion food chain. It is no surprise to see her deep melanin enriched skin making headlines, gracing covers, and breaking the internet. This woman is not only a rare beauty, but her personality glitters as much as the golden highlight on her chiseled, yet refined and feminine cheek-bones.

If you have to see it to believe it, then look no further and scroll thru a few of this Goddess’ pics!

9 Reasons MMM Is A Ponzi Scheme (Fraudulent Investment Operation)

In the past month, ‘MMM’ has become quite common among Nigerians despite warnings from the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC).

The Ponzi scheme is gaining new members daily and a Nigerian chose to explain how and why the scheme should not be invested in.
Reasons below:

1. Interest is too high and too good to be true
2. You don’t understand what they do with the money.
3. They don’t sign any legal binding agreement with you.
4. You  don’t get a collateral or security for your investment.
5. It is not regulated or approved by SEC or any other body allowed by law to approve such a scheme.
6. They give you incentives/rewards to bring in more subscribers to the scheme.
7. It relies on new incomers to sustain the scheme. When new incomers stop, it dies.
8. The owners hate criticisms and defend it till the scheme crumbles.
9. It fetes on people’s greed and thirst for quick money.

SPECIAL MOVIE AWARDS 2ND PRESS RELEASE 2016 VENUE: JOINT OFFICERS MESS

Celebrating Excellence in Films!

SPECIAL MOVIE AWARDS PRESS RELEASE 2016
VENUE: JOINT OFFICERS MESS
DATE: 8th August 2016
TIME: 12:00PM

We are pleased to inform you of the successful completion of screening of the SMA 2016 Film Entries, 37 films were submitted by 24 film production houses and after a week long screening by an independent Jury. Based on the films submitted the Jury came up with three nominees in each of the 15 Categories. The Production Houses, Categories and Nominees are as follows:

PRODUCTION HOUSE

1. Hopeful Youths Advocacy Foundation

2. Zaidi Entertainment Production

3. Maya’s Production

4. Hero Stars Movie Production

5. Climax Entertainment Production

6. Vine Yards Movies

7. Smiling Coast Movie Production

8. Atlantic Stars Production

9. A.J International

10. Runway Enter10ment

11. Trustars Production

12. Mount of Olives Film

13. GodGift Film Production

14. WAX Media

15. Jarama Production

16. Sonko Jileng Films

17. Tedungal Multimedia

18. Sanxaanu Kaggoro Film Kaffo

19. Don Entertainment

20. AINTAC Movies

21. Folonko Drama Group

22. Black Smith Media

23. Cinatrix Media

24. State of Films Production

PERFORMING ACTS CATEGORY

Best Leading Male Actor

Best Leading Female Actress

Best Supporting Male Actor

Best Supporting Female Actress

PRODUCTION CATEGORY

Best Hair/Makeup Artist

Best Costumer

Best Sound

Best Editor

Best Visual Effects

Best Picture

Best Documentary

Best Indigenous Film

Best Short Film

Best Feature Film

Best Director

FILM CATEGORY

CATEGORY / NOMINEES

1. Best Documentary
Kankurang
Kanyeleng
Craft Market

2. Best Short Film
Lord Rahl
Dhaaw
Adamu the Virus

3. Best Indigenous Film
Kan La Si
Family Matters
Joulo Kajoleh

4. Feature Film
Return to Grace
Fatou
The King and The Prince

PERFORMING ARTS CATEGORY

NOMINEES / FILM

5. Best Leading Male Actor
Bankole Browne: “Behind The Sin”
Tony Ozue: “Return to Grace”
Sheikh Omar Sawaneh: “The King and The Prince”

6. Best Leading Female Actress
Ida Sambou: “Fatou”
Jennifer Okei: “The King and The Prince”
Ayodele Iyke-Ibeh: Return to Grace”

7. Best Supporting Male Actor
Sheikh Omar Sawaneh: “God’s Purpose”
Milton Kamanda: “Fatou”
Joanna Bokarie: “Return to Grace”

8. Best Supporting Female Actress
Binta Gassama: “The Housemaid”
Naomi Cham: “Fatou”
Rohey Kamara: “Love Confusion”

PRODUCTION CATEGORY

9. Best Director
Mam Demba Ceesay: “Kan La Si”
Franklin Adim: “Return to Grace”
Onyeka Okechukwu: “Lord Rahl”

10. Best Hair/Makeup Artist
God’s Gift Film: “The King and The Prince”
Andrea Akyea: “Return to Grace”
Albeltine Ndiago: “Fatou”

11. Best Customier
God’s Gift Film: “The King and The Prince”
Dynamix: “Fatou”
Trust Frank Concept: “Boys to Men”

12. Best Visual Effects
T. Boy: “Troubled Soul”
Yusuf Sillah: “Love and Tradition”
Mamud Jalloh: “Devil on The Throne”

13. Best Sound
Oga Jay: “Boys to Men”
T. Boy: “Troubled Soul”
Korkah Bah: “Return to Grace”

14. Best Editor
T. Boy: “Troubled Soul”
Tayo: “The King and The Prince”
Mamud Jalloh: “Broken Trust”

15. Best Picture
T. Boy: “Troubled Soul”
Korkah Bah: “Return to Grace”
Lamin B. Fadera: “Behind the Sin”

NOTE:
To vote for your favorite Nominee in any of the Categories, please go to SMA Vote page on http://www.afrinitypro.com Voting officially opens 10th August and Closes 10th September 2016. Good Luck to all the Nominees, the grand Final is on the 30th September 2016. See you all there!!!